How To Stay Together In A World That Can't Stop Breaking Up

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Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it.- Erica Jong

"I love you".

Sometimes you wondered if you'd ever hear those words.

Whether you would ever find your soul mate.

And if you did, if you would ever hold onto them.

But now you have, you worry about losing them.

About the accusations, the raised voices, the sound of the door slamming.

And then it just being you...

...alone again.

Believe in fairy tales
Do you remember as a little girl listening to the romantic fairy tale where the lovers found each other and lived happily ever after?

But then of course you grew up and stopped believing.

Or did you?

Do people tell you that you are living in a romantic fairytale? Do they tell you to wake up and stop waiting to be swept off your feet? Do they say there's no such thing as 'happy ever after'.

I say believe in fairytales - they're happening all around you.

In every suburb, in every town, in every state, in any country you can point to on a map, there are soul mates meeting and falling in love and living happily ever after.

And not in a romantic fairytale, but in a real life fairytale.

And you could be one of them.

And yes, I have loved and lost and it hurts, really hurts! It burns like acid when love walks out that door. But there is no second best in love.

A broken heart is not forever, but a missed opportunity for love is.

But don't despair. The world is full of knights in shining armor looking for a princess to share their heart and castle with. And in these more modern days it may be the princess doing the looking and 'castling', but that's progress!

And you might have trouble in everyday life distinguishing knights (their armor can be a little rusty) and they in turn can find it hard to spot a princess (she's more likely to be wearing jeans rather than a ball gown).

But believe in love. Believe in love at first, second and one thousandth sight - it happens all the time.

I'm telling you, when you meet the right person, don't hesitate. Don't listen to all those cynics who tell you it's too dangerous to risk all of yourself.

The only risk in life is to go to the grave never having experienced true love. Life is too short to miss out on the love of your life.

A smart girl knows if you show a guy your true emotions
He might run a mile, but when he gets back
he might just have a ring in his pocket

Have faith in fairy tales - with faith, everything is possible.

Believe in soul mates

"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage" -Lao Tzu

Love is weak. That's what they say - the cynics, the disillusioned, the broken hearted.

But they are wrong. True love is strong - strong like a wild mountain lion protecting its cubs.

They think love should be about them. Their needs, their wants.

It's never about them. Or you. It's about the other person you're holding. It's all about that other person - their desires, their dreams, their happiness.

You don't need to think about your needs and desires because true love is like a mirror - whatever you reflect into it, comes back.

"You give loyalty, you'll get it back. You give love, you'll get it back.- Tommy Lasorda"

They say love is a temporary madness and all lovers, fools.

I say life is a temporary insanity that only love cures.

And lovers may be fools, but it's better to be fools together in love, than cynics alone in misery.

"There is no remedy for love but to love more.- Henry David Thoreau"

They say love is blind. True love doesn't need eyes to see. Love feels.
Love is vibration.

"What is Love? I have met in the streets a very poor young man who was in love. His hat was old, his coat worn, the water passed through his shoes and the stars through his soul.- Victor Hugo"

Believe in forever

Nothing is forever.

That's what they say - the cynics, the disillusioned, the broken hearted. Those who have given up on love - real love, true love, forever love.

But they are wrong.

"I wonder if it's possible to have a love affair that lasts forever. -Andy Warhol"

They say I'm a dreamer.

But who would live in a world without dreams?

I say come dream with me.

"They say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one. - John lennon"

They say love is fleeting.

I say true love is a meeting of souls for eternity.

I say true love is forever.

"He is not a lover who does not love forever.- Euripides"

They say forever is a lie.

I say come back in an eternity...

...I'll still be here.

"I can't promise you forever, because that's not long enough. - Jason Dorsey"

Believe in real-life fairy tales.

Believe in soul mates.

Believe in staying together forever in a world that can't stop breaking up.

First posted on Positively Positive