Bill Murray once said, "If you have someone you think is the one, take that person and travel around the world. Buy a plane ticket for the two of you to travel all around the world, and go to places that are hard to go to and hard to get out of. And if when you come back to JFK, when you land in JFK, and you're still in love with that person, get married at the airport."
I think it's fair to say that we have done our fair share of traveling together.
Jack and I have been dating for a bit over five years, with two of those years being on and off distance. Back and forth, six months apart, Skype calls, time difference, not knowing the next time we would see each other all became so emotionally draining and tough, and we are still here, together.
But we had something good going so we weren't going to let a bit of distance and a measly 17 hour time difference get in our way of making this relationship work. So we traveled. We traveled to 20 countries together and made this relationship stronger than ever.
Traveling has been the ultimate test to our relationship and with travel, we have become a better couple, more confident as individuals, and together, have marked our stamp all over the world (and will continue to do so)! One of the biggest reasons we are still together was because we traveled to make this relationship the way it is today. Here are 10 reasons how traveling has saved our relationship.
1. We've created new memories all across the globe
We have hiked the Grand Canyon, pet kangaroos in Australia, repelled waterfalls in Vietnam, climbed the Great Wall of China, ate our hearts out in France, drank coffees in Melbourne, surfed in Hawaii and much more. We got to explore all these new countries, make new memories, and had fun TOGETHER. We don't have this experience with anyone else and it is truly wonderful to share that bond with each other.
2. We avoid all visa issues (for the most part)
3. You learn more about each other
Traveling together puts you in a vulnerable place and can be a very revealing (and scary) experience. Everything is exposed -- all your strengths, dirty habits, fears, quirks, stresses, and every un-cute (but endearing) characteristic you may have will be seen.
Jack learned I was very messy to travel/live with and I learned Jack can't sit still for a second but we both learned we are very compatible as travel mates and as a couple. We learn about each others fears and how to push each other to conquer them, we see our strengths in communication and strive to better it, and we find out about each others bad habits and learn to fix them... kinda/hopefully.
4. They've seen the worst in you and they still love you
But, at the end of the day, they still come to the same place, on the same flight, at the same time with you! It's like they say, "For better or for worse," right?
5. We cross things off our bucketlists together
It's so rewarding to look back on that one time we swam with whale sharks, or skydived, or bathed elephants, or did a cooking class in France! WE did it together and the memories around them are something truly special! It creates a really great bond to knock off these adventures together.
6. With distance, traveling gives us something to look forward to
When we plan a new trip to meet up, we have something to look forward to, not only are we seeing a new country/city together but we get to be together physically. The importance of touch is something most take for granted and it really is such an important part of our relationship. Planning a new adventure gets us so unbelievably excited and it's really great to feel so giddy and full of butterflies each time.
7. We grow together
Traveling is where you learn most about your relationship, whether you make it or break it. There is no doubt you will not become a better you and better us by traveling. Boy, with each day, we became a better couple. You learn, you fight, you resolve, you laugh, you love, you grow. Unless, you're an ass, there is no escaping.
8. You learn to overcome (certain) fights
And honestly, you probably will fight because it's a different lifestyle to what you have become so used to, and it's ok, it's healthy (sometimes). But you have to learn to compromise to make anything work. Find a middle ground to make sure every party in the relationship is happy. You and your partner are now a team and are forced to into situations that need a solution that could ultimately please both parties. You have to work together to make the trip a success or else, stubbornness could be your demise.
9. Your sex life gets better
There is something so sexy about being somewhere else with your partner. Maybe it's the lack of stress and commitments that occupy your mind. Or maybe seeing your partner face their fears. Or maybe you are just so relaxed on this vacation that you get to rebond with your partner like it's the first time you've met. For all I know though, is that travel makes your sex life.
"Actually, the best gift you could have given her was a lifetime of adventures." Alice in Wonderland, Lewis Carroll