~ as sung by Whitney Houston
How do you know if he is into you?
And how into you is he?
Should you ask him straight up? Should you guess? Get a tarot card reading?
I would answer: If you don't know where you stand in your relationship, then that is probably not a good sign.
When a man is into you - if you are "the one" - you will know.
This means that if you are not sure what your status is with him, then likely it is not too solid. And if you've been wondering after weeks and weeks, and maybe, months and months . . . even more so!
Basically what I am saying is, if you are wondering where you stand with your man, then your very unsureness is part of your answer.
A man will turn the world upside down to be with you if you are the one for him. He will cross the country, miss the big game, and throw his coat over a puddle for you to walk over.
You will see it in his eyes, you will hear it in his tone of voice, you will feel it in the touch of his hand, but most importantly, you will experience it by his actions. His feelings for you will be whispered into the background of every moment. If that's not happening, retain that as data. As hard as that may be to contemplate, you need to consider it.
For a relationship to be strong, it needs to be authentic: not manufactured by a fantasy, or a wish, or an artificial timeline, but based on a truly genuine and real connection between the two of you.
Remember these 3 things as you navigate a new relationship.
1. BE YOURSELF. Don't compromise this. Be you. Who he is falling in love with is you. And if you are being anything less than you, it will come out sooner or later. So, be yourself right from the start. Let him see your true self: your vulnerability and your strength, your power and your fragility. The real you is beautiful and just right for the right person.
2. BE PATIENT. He needs to realize for himself what he feels. Let him recognize his feelings for you in his own timing and his own way. Don't try to cajole love. Don't manipulate him, trick him or rush him into loving you. Plus, you wouldn't be happy with the results anyway, even if they seem to succeed.
3. Finally, it's like that old saying says: IF IT'S MEANT TO BE, IT WILL BE, and I would add: and there's nothing anyone can do to stop it. This is a spiritual truth, so you can trust it. Really, you don't want to be with someone who is not right for you. He might look perfect on paper but not be right for you in real life. Trust this life principle, and let real love show up in your life.
If you remember these three points you won't wonder what the state of your relationship is -- it will become apparent. You will see it, feel it, and know it. When your man loves you, he will profess it, he will tell his friends and family, he will shout it out to high heaven! Everyone will know that you are the one -- including, and especially YOU.
Diana Lang is a spiritual teacher and author of
OPENING TO MEDITATION -www.DianaLang.com