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I Had Wanted Our First Child to Be a Boy. Then I Met My Daughter

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Do expecting parents really have no preference for the gender of their child? originally appeared on Quora - the knowledge sharing network where compelling questions are answered by people with unique insights.

Answer by Brandon Berryhill, Data Center Engineer, Musician, Husband, and Father, on Quora.

I wanted a boy really badly. Instead I got a girl.

I wanted a son to teach all the things my dad taught me (and the stuff he didn't). I had a very old Victorian notion about my child carrying on my last name. A girl couldn't do that!

When we found out we were having a girl, I wasn't exactly upset, but I was disappointed that my selfish wishes were not coming true.

Three years later I laugh at how stupid it was of me to care at all about the gender of my child. My daughter is one of the best things to happen to me and my wife. This little girl has brought so much joy. I can't imagine life without her. If seeing her born wasn't enough to completely change my mind, the first time she said "I love you Daddy" sealed the deal.

I'd guess that many expecting parents do have a gender preference, even if they refuse to admit it.

Post birth, most parents couldn't care less.


By the way, she loves dinosaurs, monster trucks, Star Wars/Trek, singing, and playing the piano. It turns out there are plenty of things we can share. This is going to be a really fun life.

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