As individuals, we all have some small way that we dress or accessorize so regularly that it becomes a part of our identity. My husband, for example, never goes without an undershirt, even when he's wearing just a basic tee shirt. I've come to lovingly refer to it as his "shell". Similarly, I'm known for my brightly-colored sneakers. I started wearing them to liven up my mandatory uniform of dark scrubs. Almost immediately, I noticed a favorable reaction from the patients I encounter on a daily basis. I work with chronic pain patients, and nearly every one of them starts a conversation about my shoes. I began to see that wearing over-the-top footwear affords these patients a moment or two to take their mind off of their pain. Perhaps in doing so, I'm bringing something good to their day. I've embraced this part of my identity, and with it, I've grown my collection of eclectic footwear (often to my husband's dismay)
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Some recent life-changing and enlightening experiences in friendship have developed into a fun little revelation, to which I would imagine many can relate. The following are examples of the many ways I believe friendship is like a pair of shoes.
- In childhood, your caretaker will select your shoes for you until you are deemed old enough to make your own choices. This selection will be based on the potential for comfort, durability, and overall good fit for your lifestyle. With this guidance, you may find a particular kind of shoe that you continue to invest in through the years, even when you have the power to choose for yourself, because they are tried and true. To the contrary, you may use your newfound independence to "stick it to the man". Perhaps you will end up with a pair of combat boots that, while many in your circle just don't understand, stick with you season after season. You may accumulate a plethora of shoes, each one fantastic in a different way. Then, for a period of your life, you may just prefer to go barefoot.
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