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If You're Dating Online -- An iPhone Is The Best Insurance Against Meeting A Dude.

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As you know, I am partial to iPhones, only because they sync with my computer and other devices.

I find most phones are overpriced to begin with, and the iPhone actually takes worse pictures than most phones. But I've got to tell you something. If you are going to date online, you must have an iPhone.

I'm going to tell you why.

The biggest complaint I hear about online dating is, you spend the time, get excited about the possibility of a new person in your life, then you show up to meet them and you have zero chemistry with them.

The truth is, most online dates are duds. Period.

But I've found a foolproof way to avoid 'dud dates' altogether. It's like dating insurance.

I truly believe there is no reason to even meet somebody for a date until you've had a FaceTime conversation with them.

When you're online dating, most people never look like their picture. One of the rules of thumb of online dating that I tell you all the time is that if you're attracted to the ugliest version of a person on their profile, meaning if you're attracted to the worst picture, then you may be attracted to them in person.

Online dating is so much noise. It's thought out emails. It's timed emails, which drive me nuts. How many times when I was online dating would I write a beautiful email to a woman, an email that I knew she didn't get in her inbox on a regular basis.

Let's state the facts. I'm a writer. That's how I get paid. I'm good with words, and I'd write this great email, and they'd look at my picture not once, but ten times. Then three weeks later they'd write me back.

I'd think to myself, oh yeah, game plan, annoying game plan. Like you just saved my email in a certain area only to say I'm going to write him back in three weeks, because I don't want to be that excited.

Let me tell you why you need to FaceTime people.

I would consider FaceTime to be the first conversation you have, because you not only get to hear their voice, you get to see what they look like.

Most of the time when you meet somebody, you don't feel any energetic connection. The second you walk into the restaurant where you're about to drop $100, you want to make a run for the door.

Chemistry is all face-to-face, and that's the beauty of FaceTime. It's a face-to-face experience. That's why it's called FaceTime.

So if you're online dating, suggest a five minute FaceTime call. You'll get to see their mannerisms, the way they talk, the way they smile. You can get a feel for them as a person and look directly into their eyes.

It's only five minutes, and you'll know at the end of that FaceTime call if you really want to go out with them or not.

Steve Jobs is a smart man. Steve Jobs may be dead, but he gave me the best dating insurance in the world. FaceTime is great dating insurance.

It's a first date. Men will be into it too. Remember, a man's biggest fear of online dating is that you will show up and not look like your pictures.

Do you know what the number one fear women have about online dating? That their date is going is going to be a serial killer. Another reason to FaceTime. Chances are if he's creepy, you'll see it right away!

Without guys even realizing you're checking them out, feeling their energy, they're going to think it's a great idea that you FaceTime.

I strongly suggest you use that dating insurance. FaceTime before you meet.

It's a good thing you're not going to worry about what they look like, how they walk, or how they talk. You're going to learn their mannerisms right from the get-go.

That's what it's all about. Chemistry is all about face-to-face, no matter what we do in today's world of modern technology. Unless you meet somebody face-to-face, you're really not going to know whether you're attracted to them or not.

FaceTime, my friends. It's the best dating insurance you have.