Is This Déjà Vu?

“One day, it will all make sense, it will all be revealed. Until then, we learn to live and accept our shadows, our Déjà vu's, our dreams, our intuition that takes us to places that our minds never conceived, our bodies only perceived and our souls gladly remembered.” ~ Unknown

It’s the strangest feeling.

You meet someone for the very first time but it seems like you have known each other forever. You feel quite sure that you have met them before… and yet it was not so.

Perhaps it was in other lifetimes that you met then?

Not surprisingly, many of us actually believe in reincarnation. Many books, documentaries and films have been created dealing with reincarnation, allowing the average person to believe we have more than one life, one experience, and that there is more out there than just this physical reality. Some call this a rebirth of consciousness.

Not only is the possibility of reincarnation embedded in many cultures and religions across the world, statistics show that the acceptance and support of this belief is growing rapidly.

Imagine, if you will, that your current life is not your only reality. That this is not your only existence in a human body, but in fact there have been many others. You have had many fathers, mothers, brothers, sisters, friends, relationships, and innumerable variety of experiences even. You have delved in different careers, interests, spoken myriad other languages and probably practiced many other religions as well. Through each lifetime you learned many lessons, and you grew from having received all that knowledge.

The “you” of course, is not this particular body whose eyes are scanning these words, whose mind is learning to comprehend this message. In fact “you” are the soul whose travel has involved many lifetimes, thru many bodies, and has had many identities. You have gone thru cycles of learning and unlearning, both consciously and unconsciously, thru pain and sorrows, and acceptance and letting go. All those have accumulated during all the many lifetimes, as valuable lessons that stay within the soul.

It requires deep reflection and deep inner work on our part to come to a place of great peace and balance on the soul level. However, not everyone is willing to go thru this journey because it takes tremendous courage to look deep into the innermost recesses of our soul.

The dynamics of certain relationships, particularly the difficult and challenging ones, often escape us. We simply cannot understand why we are experiencing so much pain and heartache, difficulty in achieving the bliss and joy that we wish we could arrive at. Perhaps there is some past that has yet to be reconciled, karmic debts that need to be repaid in this lifetime, and hence the confusion and the suffering. And so we wonder, “Why is this happening to me?” “Why is my relationship so difficult?”

If we can come to understand the concept of multiple lifetimes, of past birth commitments, vows and contracts that must be fulfilled, then we can be free from the many fears that consume us, from bondage that we hold ourselves in, and move from the compulsion to make our worlds perfect. Past birth commitments, vows and contracts have to be fulfilled. The cycle of give and take must be resolved. Past debts and negative karmas have to be settled. Until all these are resolved we will keep on receiving nagging reminders, meeting the same type of experiences thru similar people in each lifetime.

We understand that we do not die but simply continue on our soul journeys. Those people that we meet who seem so familiar, those experiences that we go thru, that feel like déjà vu, those relationships with people and partners that are so difficult with such a complicated history of give and take, may have been because they were our companions in other lifetimes. And like a debt at the bank, our negative karmas must be settled. If we resist these lessons they will continue to persist, even beyond this lifetime.

By the same token, all the good we have accumulated thru various lifetimes shows up as our “good fortune” but which in essence is not just good luck but something we have earned and are deserving of. So when we meet someone and believe they are our “soul mate”, our dream partner, and we rejoice at our good luck, then it can be said that there is much more behind the scenes, and involves so much more than we are consciously aware of. The joy we experience has been bestowed upon us because of the good we have accumulated in our past lives.

Having thus learnt of these nuances, received this knowledge, let us be mindful to create a better life and a better future by looking at our patterns of behavior that do not serve us, and let go of what is not beneficial, so that we may leave these behind and not have to carry forward as debts to pay in future lives.

Knowing that what we give out will surely come back to haunt us, if not now then certainly later in the karmic realm, it behooves us to shed the negative while we have the chance.

“As in this body, infancy and youth and old age come to the embodied self,

So does the acquisition of another body; a sensible man is not deceived about that…

As a man, casting off old clothes, puts on others and new ones,

So the embodied self, casting off old bodies, goes to others and new ones…”

~The Bhagavad Gita

© Rani St. Pucchi, 2017

Rani St. Pucchi is a Relationship Expert, a Couture Fashion Designer and an Image consultant. She is a Bestselling Author, a Speaker, an Inspirational Coach and a Trainer. Her #1 bestselling books, The SoulMate Checklist : Keys to Finding Your Perfect Partner and Your Body, Your Style: Simple Tips on Dressing to Flatter Your Body Type are now available everywhere books are sold. For more information on Rani please visit

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