One common denominator among my anger management clients is impatience. Impatience is more prevalent these days as pace is so fast and time seems to be wasted if things do not happen quickly-smoothly. Waiting on line, waiting for anything- is more of a chore than ever before. Everyone’s frustration tipping point is individual – and when levels are too high topples over into anger-violence or suppression-depression. This season – holidays – is even more important than ever to be mindful of being tolerant and patient.
If we understand impatience better, it will give us more power to get it right more of the time. Here is info on the topic that can help. Good luck!!
Impatience is triggered when we have a goal, and realize it’s going to cost us more than we thought to reach it.
~ When a child is waiting for Christmas and realizes that she can’t stop thinking about Christmas, she grows impatient. Waiting for Christmas is costing her more than she thought it would in terms of her ability to pay attention to other things in the meantime.
~ You’re driving home and think it will take just 20 minutes to get there. But the two cars ahead of you are going 10 miles per hour below the speed limit, and they’re driving side by side in the only two lanes. You realize it’s going to take more time than you thought to get home—and you grow impatient.
Impatience motivates us to reduce the costs of reaching our goal, or perhaps to switch goals.
When we realize it’s going to cost us more than we thought to get to our goal, our mental gears start spinning. We start looking for ways to avoid the additional costs in time, pain, distraction, credibility or opportunity.
The Gun ‘N’ Roses song “Patience” - ‘88 may come to mind. Good to hum while stuck in that traffic jam :)-
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