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Life has always been about fear, it's just that adults tend to forget what we went through and want to protect the current generation from what they're experiencing. The reality is: the children of today will survive the pressures of fear just as my generation did, just as every generation has.
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I read an article about children practicing exiting their school. It wasn't a fire drill, this was to prepare for a gunman roaming their hallways; the children were being instructed to climb out the windows and run.

My first thought was that it's sad we have to train kids like this.

Then I remembered my own childhood, and all I lived through.

When I was young, students practiced "Duck and Cover," the act of getting under our desks in case of a nuclear war with Russia. My entire class was fingerprinted, because the Atlanta Child Murders were scaring the collective crap out of America. Thirty eight million people watched the movie Adam, and America's Most Wanted was born from the aftermath of the horrific event of child abduction that inspired said movie. Hospitals volunteered to x-ray Halloween candy, because the idea a razorblade could be inside an apple sent the country into such a tailspin that for a good many years trick-or-treating took place in daylight hours.

I realized that while times change, raising children to live with fear has always been the norm.

Life has always been about fear, it's just that adults tend to forget what we went through and want to protect the current generation from what they're experiencing. The reality is: the children of today will survive the pressures of fear just as my generation did, just as every generation has.

I'm not immune from fear, however.

I'm writing this at 2:00 a.m. because irrational fear shot me awake. I was lying in bed, attempting to fall asleep, and suddenly: bam! There it was, the most evil thought possible, making my stomach churn.

What if something happened to my children?

I was awake in an instant, and for over an hour I've been trying to calm myself and get the loathsome idea out of my head. If something happened to my daughter, I don't think I'd survive. I wouldn't want to. But I'd have to, for my son. Likewise, if something happened to my son, I would have to carry on for the sake of my daughter.

Thankfully, such thoughts are rare. Like most people, 99% of the time I'm aware the world is by-and-large is inhabited by good folks. But when malevolent thoughts pop in uninvited, they can be crippling.

The important thing, I believe, is my guidance as a parent. If I lament the teachings of safety and instill worry into my children, they will grow up flinching at shadows. If I am straightforward, and treat preparing for danger as a simple fact of life, they will do the like.

They will understand that as a whole, the planet is a good place, but that you do have to keep your eyes open and radar up.

Such, as they say, is life.

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