I asked her out. Isn’t that enough?!
I don’t know how many times I’ve been asked out by men who have no idea where to take me on a date. While I appreciate the opportunity to have an equal say in where we go & how we spend our time together, I would appreciate it even more if a man took the time to actually plan our dates on his own.
Just to be clear, I’m only talking about men who have no specific plans for our 1st, 2nd or 3rd date. Once we get comfortable, I am more than happy to share in the responsibility of planning our dates. But in the beginning (especially our very first date), the words “What do you want to do?” should never come out of a man’s lips. Okay, maybe if the guy is new to the city or something like that but otherwise, why not take the time to plan a nice evening or a fun activity for us to do?! As the man, you saw fit to ask me out in the first place surely you don’t think your job ends there, do you?
I hear that some men like to take a woman’s suggestions into consideration before deciding on where to take them. That’s all fine & good but you should still provide her with options. That’s like going to a car dealership and asking the salesman what type of car you should buy. Or walking into the grocery store & asking the clerk what you should buy to eat. Who does that? Before going to a make a purchase your decision should have already been made. No woman wants to date a man who can’t be bothered to do some research ahead of time. All I’m saying is that we women would like you to have a plan before taking us out.
Not sure what to do on a date? If you’ve done all the research you think you can do, here are some ways to get more ideas:
· Try asking one of your friends (male or female) for some suggestions – surely you’re not the 1st person to EVER go out on a date
· Check your local community listings for low-cost and sometimes free events around town
· Go to Ticketmaster – it seems like 99% of concerts, plays, etc. go through this website to sell tickets. If you don’t want to use them, try StubHub.com or BrownPaperBag.com
· Do something outdoorsy – This is a great way to get the blood pumping and shows that you can think outside of the “1st date box”
· Find out what your date likes to do or eat & plan an evening around that. During your first few initial phone calls with her you should have figured out what she likes to do, so just go from there….
· Show your date the kind of things that you like to do & plan an evening around that. It’ll probably be one of the best ways for her to get to know you
· If all else fails, hit up the internet. You can always find activities, events, shows & more ideas on there
These were just some general ideas to get you going. If you happen to use any of the suggestions I mentioned above, let me know in the comments section below. I’d love to hear what worked & what didn’t……