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It's Time to Make Compassion Fashionable

There's more than enough suffering in the world already. It's time for a revolution that brings alive fearlessness, courage, compassion and love. Then we can break through the differences that separate us and cause so much loneliness and fear and actually open our arms to each other.
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Actions speak louder than words. The pope showed compassion and humility when he had bathrooms and showers built at the Vatican for use by homeless people, and again when he celebrated his birthday by giving each one a sleeping bag. At the same time the Dalai Lama, head of Tibetan Buddhism, says how his true religion is kindness, and how love and compassion are the pillars of world peace.

We have a wonderful photo of Bishop Tutu with his hands in prayer position. Underneath it are his words, Please make it fashionable to be compassionate. That photograph is many years old but his words are even more relevant today.

Sadly we've also been witnessing many horrific non-compassionate actions of late such as school shootings, racial prejudice, and violent beheadings.

Man must evolve for all human conflict a method that rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love. --Martin Luther King

Isn't it time to make compassion fashionable, to make kindness cool, to make consideration and care hot topics? Isn't it time for a compassionate revolution? How can there by peace if we are not at peace with ourselves, if we don't open our hearts to ourselves and to all others, equally? We have to end the war within ourselves, as it's that inner war that masterminds violence, and make kindness and compassion the means by which we live. We can do this, and we have to do it.

A revolution is a re-evolution; it is the willingness to take a higher step in the evolution of consciousness. It is also a revolving, a turning around of ourselves in response to an inner calling. In this case it's the turning from selfishness, self-survival and closed heartedness to openheartedness, sharing and tenderness. It's a shift in emphasis. From being consumed with our fears, doubts, insecurities and dramas, our greatest joy comes from caring for each other.

We've already proven that war does not work, that fighting and killing in the name of religion, to wipe out an enemy, or to claim control never has a happy ending, always there is suffering and anguish and continued pain with no end in sight. The dualistic belief that there's an "us" and "them" causes an endless no-win situation, blanketing our minds with ignorance.

There's more than enough suffering in the world already. It's time for a revolution that brings alive fearlessness, courage, compassion and love. Then we can break through the differences that separate us and cause so much loneliness and fear and actually open our arms to each other.

Anytime Kindness

Whenever we get stressed we tend to close our hearts toward others. We get a "couldn't care less" attitude -- nothing matters but our own little world. By developing a more loving and caring attitude, we will find more joy and certainly less stress.

Every time you feel rushed, irritated, annoyed or upset, sit quietly and silently repeat: May I be happy or May I be filled with loving kindness.

If you can do that for a day then the next day silently say may you be well or may you be happy to each person you see or meet. It's important not to tell them -- just feel it in your heart. You can do this to people in an elevator, at work, in the street, or at home.

Silently repeat may you be filled with loving kindness when your partner or boss is upset or angry with you, or when someone is criticizing you. The more you do this, the more you release the hook inside yourself so that anger cannot land.

If a day feels easy, try a whole week. Let friendliness and kindness grow within you. Make it your goal to become a more loving and kinder person.

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Ed & Deb are hosts of Going Out Of Your Mind radio on Sundays at 8pm EST, starting Sept 13th on VividLife.me. They are the authors of the bestselling book, Be The Change. Deb is the author of Your Body Speaks Your Mind, now in 19 languages. They have three meditation CDs. See more at EdandDebShapiro.com