Wellness

Do You Judge?

Why is she so thin? She must be devastated over her marriage. Is she on drugs? Everyone seems to have a question or comment when someone famous is going through a rough patch. It is so easy to assume or come to a conclusion on what the story is.
02/02/2012 12:20pm ET | Updated April 3, 2012

Why is she so thin? She must be devastated over her marriage. Is she on drugs? Everyone seems to have a question or comment when someone famous is going through a rough patch. It is so easy to assume or come to a conclusion on what the story is. We all do it from time to time, and as a celebrity trainer to some very famous people, people forget that these are real people.

After seeing the cover of Harper's Bazaar, the cover girl looked a little off to me. Demi Moore looked distant and blank. So it made sense when the news broke that she had gone into treatment for exhaustion. As stated from her people, Moore, 49, has checked into a treatment center, her publicist told ABCNews.com in an email statement: "Because of the stresses in her life right now, Demi has chosen to seek professional assistance to treat her exhaustion and improve her overall health. She looks forward to getting well and is grateful for the support of her family and friends."

As an old acquaintance of Demi I wish her the best.

Do your lifestyle, job, economy, friends or family create such stress in your life that it could potentially take your life?

The glamorous life of the celebrity is not always what you see on the pages of the magazine or on the big screen when you head out for your Saturday night. Recently, there have been others who have been behind the scenes with their struggles. Take for example Paula Deen. Never before have I seen such rush to judgment.

Reported in The Huffington Post, Deen revealed that she has been living with Type 2 diabetes for the past three years, drawing criticism from colleagues and viewers alike for concealing the condition while promoting unhealthy foods that are particularly dangerous for diabetes sufferers. What's more, many questioned her motivation for speaking out, given her timing. While announcing her condition, Deen also revealed that she'd signed a multi-million dollar deal with pharmaceutical company Novo Nordisk to promote their diabetes drug, Victoza. What's more, reported Business Insider, she has continued to profit from peddling diabetes-inappropriate fare, making an estimated $30 million during the period between her diagnosis and her public statement about the disorder.

I felt compelled to write.

Hello Paula, I have watched you for years and love what you do and who you are. You bring a smile to my face every time I see you. I applaud you for coming forward as it will help millions. I am all about moderation in life, both with what you eat and how you move. Too much of anything is not is good for anyone. Your discovery of being diabetic must have been scary and life-changing. People think it is easy to publicly announce such personal news as well as how it will affect your business and brand. It is a shame that people immediately judge. I wish you the best of luck and hope your lifestyle changes as well as the changes in your brand will help others with the same condition.

As an avid Paula Deen watcher never once did she say that we, as viewers, should eat her food for breakfast, lunch and dinner, at least to my knowledge. It is like those who are suing the cigarette companies and fast food chains for their diseases. No one is holding a gun to your head making you eat it or smoke it. Take responsibility for your own actions.

The rush to judge has become a human trait. Unfortunately, it destroys many relationships and businesses along the way. All of us we should try to judge a little less. Give people a chance and understand there will always be a story.

"If you judge people, you have no time to love them."
-- Mother Teresa

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