I think it is fair to say that the person who we beat up the most emotionally is ourselves and we are indeed our toughest critics. When something falls apart or goes wrong, we suddenly blame ourselves and doubt our own abilities. We knock ourselves down. Why do we do that? Well the answer is simple. We are human. It's human nature to be critical of our own selves.
Is there another way to handle downfalls without beating ourselves up? Yes there is! First understand this, even if you don't see things happening for you, they are and they have been. You owe it to yourself to acknowledge how far you have come and.all the things you have accomplished so far. Every accomplishment, big and small counts. So how do we do it? How do we acknowledge every little great thing that we do.
First and foremost, lets forget the idea of perfectionism. Nobody is perfect. No one can be perfect. You can't be perfect. Accept that fact that while you can't be perfect, you are perfect the way you are with all of your goodness, qualities, and flaws. We are only human to make mistakes and at times, find ourselves in difficult situations. None of that means that we are to blame. It doesn't mean that you're a failure. It certainly does not make you any less of a wonderful and amazing person that you are. So acknowledge yourself as whole, a perfectly capable human being. While acknowledging your greatness, also acknowledge any shortcomings which you may have but don't dwell on them. Instead, use them as motivating factors to excel and grow.
Next, appreciate yourself. Appreciate yourself for everything that you are and have and forget about everything you are not or don't have. Focus on what you have within yourself, spiritually, financially, and materialistically and you will find contentment along with more abundance. It's simple, always keep gratitude as the right attitude. Gratitude helps us to control our emotions and attitude, especially when things are rocky. It's a savior!
Finally, never give up. That's right. Never let anything in life keep you from learning, growing, and moving ahead. Live in the moment, as I call it. Living in the moment is the best way to live. You don't get to focus on your past or worry about the future. If something happened in this moment, it happened. It's gone. Don't drag the past into the next moment. Dragging the past into your NOW is the fastest way to knock yourselves down. Try to use each new moment as a new opportunity given to you.
Please don't sweat the small stuff and don't sweat the big stuff either. After all it's not worth the wonderful moment of life that you have now. Knock yourself up, with a positive and grateful attitude that is!