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Let's Get Uncomfortable in 2016

Whatever happens, I wish you the power of being uncomfortable in 2016, despite the comfortable pillow.
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The next few days are difficult for people, not exclusively singles. The interfacing with social media is mind numbing. Distressing for some. We all are going to say goodbye to 2015. Many people will look back at this year and tell us, in one form or another, through one web-based platform or another, what they are thankful for as 2016 arrives.

Inevitably, we will hear and likely read from our "friends" (now many of us have thousands of them) as they tell us how grateful they are for the new man/woman in their lives.

It is so easy and comfortable to talk about wanting that same experience for yourself in 2016. I suggest that 2016 be the year of discomfort. Dating is a process. So if your goal last year was to watch the ball drop with someone special, do not fret if it did not happen in 2015. Or fret. But at least allow the melancholy to challenge how you will do things differently in the coming year. How are you going to uncomfortably change your patterns?

For those who are single, one suggestion is to face the problem head on because it is near impossible to divert your attention from the void. You are inevitably going to focus on the missing pieces and not the great job, the good friends, the exotic travel, or the comfortable pillow you found while online shopping two months ago. So stare at the problem. Resolve to fix it.

Get yourself uncomfortable in 2016. Sounds terrible, or terribly rewarding.

One more year of failing. One more year of learning from failures. One more year of living and learning. Maybe you will not broadcast to your thousands of "friends" the proclamation of love a year from now. Maybe you will not have that person to celebrate. If you do, maybe you will internalize (completely your call).

Whatever happens, I wish you the power of being uncomfortable in 2016, despite the comfortable pillow.