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Letting Go Of Toxic People

Clearing our bodies of toxins isn't always about what we eat or drink. Sometimes removing the poison means you have to make the difficult decision to cut toxic people out of your life to heal your soul.

It's not an easy task.

Sometimes we aren't even aware of the damage being caused from the negative energy of a friend or family member.

We don't notice when someone is trying to control us. The signs are missed. You don't understand why you are agitated, annoyed, and anxiety ridden in someone's presence until you take a step back and get in touch with your inner self.

You don't recognize that you often keep silent and resist the urge to defend yourself, to speak out when you are hearing lies. You give excuses as to why someone behaves the way they do because they have been there for you often over the years and you afraid to lose that perceived support.

I live by my emotions, and don't always understand why I feel the way I do around certain people. It isn't until I have "fact" that I can step away.

Maybe it's the reporter in me -- there is always two sides to a story. I try very hard to see every angle. Even if my instincts are telling me to walk away, I have a hard time cutting the anchor because I don't want to ever be seen as "mean" or "bad."

My insecurities often get the better of and have been used against me. But slowly I'm starting to emerge from my shell.

Maybe it's getting older. You start to realize that not everyone has your best interest at heart. Some people like when you are in crisis because it fulfills their want to be needed. They feed off the drama.

They fill your head with half-truths and half-lies, making you believe things about yourself that you know aren't true. They put a slant on every story in order in order to make themselves able to fit the role they've created.

For their story to work you have to be the antagonist or partner in crime because otherwise they will have to come face to face with themselves in the mirror.

It's not easy to let go of the friendships, relationships and family loyalties that cause you pain.

But in the words of my friend Deb,

"If you need to cut ties, do it, and find those kind-like souls that can feed your spirit."

The braver you are and recognize and remove those hurting you, the more room you have to be your true self and let the right people in who lift you up, not weigh you down.