Without a doubt, self-fulfillment is one of the most important desires that we seek in our lives. Our state of self-fulfillment can affect our overall wellbeing, the level of happiness and our relationship with the surrounding. Throughout my professional music career as a violinist, many people have shared with me that I should consider myself “very lucky” because I do what I love doing most. It made me wonder: Do most people feel they have “fulfilling lives”? Is it possible that we don’t necessarily know what would make us feel fulfilled or better yet how to get there?
I have heard about life-coaching for years and more recently at a gathering of a few close friends, someone suggested “life coaching” is “a marketing scam” and that anyone could become a “life coach”. I’ve also heard this statement before. It is unfortunate that most people don’t quite understand what life-coaching is, its merits and benefits, not to mention that most people don't have the privilege of participating in a session with an effective life coach.
The common mistake that I found, when it comes to life-coaching, is the misconceived affiliation with the psychological therapeutic field - people believe that it is some sort of mental health counseling. Therapy can be extremely beneficial, but life-couching is simply not related. In other words: life-coaching would benefit you, when there is nothing “wrong” in your life when your mental health is perfectly fine, and you won’t have to sit on a sofa and dig into your past.
Life couching is all about getting on with your life. Imagine looking at your life the way you would be looking at a business plan, divided to categories such as: personal relationship, family, business, hobbies etc. and having the opportunity to evaluate your performance (maybe even give yourself a score), in a professional manner, while accessing what is missing in order to “optimize your performance”, and most important: come up with a strategic plan to take you there.
Too good to be true?
If our purpose in life is to reach our full potential in every aspect of our lives, it just so happens that we are the ones to hold our uniquely designed “key to success,” and we know best how to put together our own business master plan, and even add the special personal customization touch. Although it is common to think that we advise others better than ourselves, not only that it is not true, as a matter of fact, we have the potential to become our best advisors, simply because we know what we want in life, our deepest desires, our background, skills, experience, abilities, character, potential, passion, dreams and also: how to get there.
With that being said, one might be wondering how come people constantly feel that they fail in reaching their full potential? Funny thing is that although we have all the answers, we don’t necessarily take the time to listen to ourselves in a professional manner, the way we would do for others or for our job. Not only that we don’t invest the time in creating a plan to advance our own lives, often times we get preoccupied by our emotional state of mind instead of focusing on how to move our lives forward.
This is when life couching comes into place; a professional guidance to assist us in putting together a customized plan, with the purpose of moving our lives forward, while reaching our full potential in every area of our lives.
To better understand what to expect when enrolling for a life-coaching session, I met with my dear friend Karl Romain, a Certified Life Coach, Business Coach, Executive Leadership Coach and Master Coach for the Fowler International academy of Coaching. I’ve known Mr. Romain through his professional work as a World Champion in Martial arts, public Speaker, and Radio/TV Personality, which give him a unique knowledge, expertise and approach when it comes to live coaching. Here's what he had to say.
So what is life coaching? Life Coaching helps people to go from where they are to where they want to be. Coaching assists people to tap into their truth by using open-ended questions designed to direct them to come up with their own answers and epiphanies to the challenges they face. Coaching also helps people to keep them on track by supporting them with tools and accountability. Coming to see a coach is all about focusing on where you are now and where you want to go. You need to be ready to do the work and, realize that you will not be told what to do. The open ended questions and exercises will help you accomplish your goals, dreams and desires. Life coaching will help you develop a crystal clear vision of your dreams, create a plan to accomplish those dreams and help you to be accountable to the action that you need to take, in order to make your dreams come true.
Why should I see a life coach and not a shrink? it depends on the situation – if you are mentally healthy, a life coach might be extremely beneficial for making some adjustments in order to move your life forward to where you would like to be.
When is a good time to see a life coach? Anytime can be a great time: when you are stuck or unsure of what to do in order to get your life back on track, or when you want to accomplish more in your life. Anytime you want to move forward in a fulfilled life.
How can life coaching help me with my relationship? Life coaching can help you to identify the ideal relationship, like a business plan, that will be filled with steps for action in order to move your relationship forward. It can help a good relationship to become even better, and save a relationship that is in crisis.
How do I convince my partner to join me for a session if he/she is not interested in therapy? Life coaching is not therapy. It’s not about advice giving, and the focus isn't on the past. Life coaching is all about the future; it's about asking the right questions. It empowers you to discover and reach your objectives, share and discuss them with your partner in a professional setting in order to move forward together.
How can life coaching help me with my business? Life coaching can be extremely effective when it comes to your business: launching a new business, taking your business to next level, development and preparing to sell your business. A coach can help you find your unique direction and develop a customized plan to accomplish your business goals.
Where do I find a life coach? www.daylighttraining.com and noomii.com, Since 90% of life coaching is now being done over the internet or by phone, it's easier than ever to find an excellent coach.
Can I become a life coach myself? Absolutely! If you have a genuine desire to help others, as a Certified Master Trainer and Coach, I can provide you with effective training that can give proven results. You can register on my website and you can see some of my work HERE. you can also watch me live on Facebook every Thursday @9pm eastern https://www.facebook.com/SifuKarlRomainFanPage/ for a 6 week coaching program based on the transformation U material.
Music around the world has regarded self-fulfillment in many ways by inspiring people to be their best selves, promoting self-love and come together in harmony and in brotherhood. With Dr. Martin Luther King Day approaching, having the opportunity to support his message of “dream it, believe it, and do it” with my song “Symphony of brotherhood” featuring Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., I hope that this article would provide you with another tool to make your dreams come true.
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