What To Remember The Next Time You Feel Your Life Getting Off Track

Resist the urge to fall into this common trap.

Sometimes, life seems to get a bit off track. Whether it’s one big life event that snaps you into a different direction or it’s a minor happening that ends up slowly snowballing into a life that feels unrecognizable, the emotional experience often rests on the same foundation: a sense of betrayal.

Why did that happen? How did things get this far? What am I doing right now? These aren’t uncommon sentiments. As former pastor Rob Bell explains, many people have a clear idea in their heads of how their lives are meant to go. When it doesn’t play out that way, he says, the instinct is often to assign blame to others.

“There are the endless voices ― the cacophony of messages around you ― telling you, ‘This is who you are,’ ‘this is who you are,’ ‘this is who you are,’” Bell says. “Sometimes, we’re upset, even angry, with those around us who we are blaming because of how our life isn’t what it was supposed to be.”

This blaming of others is typically a form of self-preservation.

“We’re actually pointing the finger at them because it’s too painful to look at all of the ways we betrayed ourselves,” Bell says. 

However, he continues, it is crucial to lean into that pain and acknowledge your own role in allowing yourself to stray from your true path. “Generally, you won’t step more and more into your path without challenging the assumptions of your tribe,” Bell says.

It can be a painful exercise and, he warns, you’ll want to be prepared for resistance from that cacophony of voices. “You being the full ‘you,’ which is the greatest gift to the rest of us, may mean the people closest to you don’t understand,” Bell says.

What matters is that you stay strong and try not to veer toward their path instead of your own.

“All the energy that you spend comparing yourself to them, to him and to her ... is energy that you could give to who you are and what you’re here to do,” Bell says.

Another healing exercise from Bell:



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