Life Lessons From Fast Food

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There's not much good food in prison. I am still digesting that life changing experience.

So, I have an admission to make.

I just polished off every molecule of a McDonald's Big 'N Tasty Meal. (That's a #6 for you Mickey D's wannabes.) Ahhh, I loved each bite of that burger and salty, soggy fry. Every mouthful was so refreshing after my time eating microwaved chicken potpie while working in a prison. As I sat in my car waiting for my Big 'N Tasty, it dawned on me that life is like the "drive thru" line at McDonald's. You get what you order. Often, people settle for what shows up in their life rather than going for the Big Gulp that is the life of their dreams. Particularly in our current economic environment many of us are afraid to ask for what we want.

The First Step: Ask.
The Universe is asking, "Can I Supersize that for you?" What is your answer? The first step in having what you want in your life is asking for it. It sounds so simple and dorky. Yet, it is true. Recently, a client doubled her income. When a new customer asked her normal rate, a ridiculously large number popped out of her mouth. She told me later of her surprise at this new found boldness. Even in this economy, she asked for what she wanted and got it. Her deeper process began as he opened to an inner place of worthiness which she needed to embrace in order to actually receive greater abundance. Her request for more money got her both more money and a new awareness of the innate goodness that is her authentic nature.

Simple Questions Can SUPERSIZE The Quality of Your Life.

Asking a few key questions can dramatically impact your experience. Ask, ask, ask!

1. Ask......Yourself.
Take 15 minutes and review your week. This can be the most productive 15 minutes on your agenda.

Ask yourself, "What worked...and what didn't?" Whip out that trusty calendar of yours and look at your activities and interactions. Does your jaw get tight when you see "meeting with JD"? Do you feel a knot in your stomach when you remember the unclear communication with your brother? You are the world expert in You-ness, so you are the person that is best equipped to give yourself the best feedback. Taking time to look at your week gives you clear guidance of what worked and what didn't. By reviewing your week you will become familiar with your own "instant feedback cues". Practicing this technique you will become more familiar with your cues. Soon, you will be able to use these "instant decision makers" as a traffic light for your decisions.

2. Ask...Another
Take 15 minutes and ask for support. It takes a village to change a habit or to create a dream. You have so much more support than you know. If there is someone in your life that has what you want, that person is the best place to start. (A friend with a happy marriage will give you better romantic advise than a single friend....I found that out the hard way). Ask if you can chat with them weekly and get their advice.

3. Ask...Your Infinite Wisdom
Take 15 minutes and ask for the support and guidance of your Spirit.. Then....listen! Inviting the infinite wisdom of The Great Good inside you is probably the smartest question you can ever ask. I have found that Spirit is the best partner around. Maybe finding the handsome, sensitive man of your dreams and fitting into your size 8 jeans seems 50% impossible to you, but for Spirit it is no biggie.

Are you ready to get out of the way and let your dreams have a say? Ask Eli a question at or go to today.

Eli Davidson is a nationally recognized executive coach and motivational speaker. Her book, "Funky to Fabulous: Surefire Success Stories for the Savvy, Sassy and Swamped", (Oak Grove Publishing) has won three national book awards. Eli is a reinvention catalyst, who can transform your professional and personal life from Funky to Fabulous with her ten, trademarked Turnaround Techniques that create rapid and remarkable results.