As I approach the second half of my 25th year of life, I look around and realize that most of my peers are embarking on their quarter-life crises. Having gone through mine a bit prematurely, I'd like to offer up one piece of advice. Accept that you can't plan every aspect of your life.
I know because I've tried. I accelerated my undergraduate curriculum to finish college a semester early, then proceeded to start my first full-time job and graduate classes (simultaneously) before my 22nd birthday. Shortly after completing my MBA, I splurged the salary I had saved on my very first place. I "needed" to attain these things to consider myself a success, and now that I finally have the chance to take a deep breath and look back on these milestones that I simply could not contain myself from striving for, I wonder, "Why the rush?" Hard work, motivation, and the occasional lapse in sanity aren't the only ingredients you need to achieve your dreams. After taking a look at my very worst habits -- the first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem -- I have some dos and don'ts to offer up about both making a living and maintaining a life.
Dos
- Find something you're passionate about and go for it. It might not pad your bank account, but it will be more fulfilling than a mind-numbing 9-5 -- who am I kidding? 8-6 -- that you couldn't care less about.
Don'ts
- Focus on your failures. No problem is so big that it cannot be fixed, or at least learned from.
Let me leave you with some words of wisdom from Rev. Run -- and let me assure you part of me just died inside for quoting Rev. Run -- "Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life." Living by these guidelines is certainly easier said than done, but I'd be doing myself a disservice if I didn't try. The same goes for you.
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