Sarah was heavily overweight most of her life. At the age of 55 and with a pre-diabetes diagnosis, Sarah came to me for advice and guidance on how to improve her health and perhaps shed a few pounds. Fast forward six months and Sarah has lost about 44 pounds BUT may be losing her husband in the process.
Working with successful businesswomen to help them gain control of their expanding waistlines as they approach menopause is as very exciting and humble experience.
To see transformations unfold is rewarding and exhilarating. Women share their successes and downfalls in a safe environment allowing them to achieve the body they are looking for.
Many women share similar stories as Sarah's. Be it husbands, boyfriends, mothers or girlfriends, once a woman loses weight and get their hormones under control, not everyone in their lives may be celebrating in their success.
Sarah's husband married Sarah curves and all and does not want her to lose any more weight. This is despite Sarah sharing with her husband that she feels great, her pre-diabetes has been abated, and she would love to continue to lose another 40 pounds.
Lack of support from Sarah's husband may be due to any of the following points.
- He may genuinely love a woman with curves.
Is Sarah's husband to be vilified?
Or is it Sarah's fault for changing the goal posts? He married a woman with curves, and she is no longer the woman that he married.
My advice to Sarah?
- Be true to yourself. Preventing the development of diabetes is a major step towards wellness. Exuding confidence and self-esteem is something that cannot be taught but comes from within and something that very few people actually achieve. For that reason alone I urged her not to give in to her husband's pleas to regain the lost weight.
What would you do if you found yourself losing some excess weight only to find someone close to you is trying to sabotage your efforts? I would love to hear you thoughts and how you handled the situation. You can leave your comments below and I will answer everyone's questions.
Julie Dargan is a Nurse, Naturopath BHSc and has worked in the wellness industry for over 30 years. Julie's FREE 5 Day Kickstart Program is excellent to get you on the right track in your weight loss quest. Julie also has a private Facebook group for women over 50 and looking for solutions to halt weight gain in the menopause.