Valentine's Day can be a romantic time of the year, when our partners express their love for us, that time of year when we receive flowers, chocolates, balloons, cards, an intimate dinner, or that special love note. But for some it can be a sad time, as not everyone has that special someone in his or her life. Being dateless can lead to:
1.Confusion
2.Concern
3.Loneliness
So when the 14th of February approaches and we find that empty spot on our heart calendar, it is important to remind ourselves that single is not a disease and our relationship status does not define us. This is not the time to sign up for every online dating site.
But when we do decide to venture out trying to find that "perfect" date whether it be through a friend referral or private party match, remember we are looking for just that, a date, not a cure. If we go looking for someone to fill us, we are searching for love in all the wrong places. Sounds like a song we've heard before right? Well it's true, nobody can make us happy, happiness is a state of mind and it comes from within. This is where connection comes in, lining up our heart with our mind. But how can we be sure to find the right dating connection when so many people wear masks, as if they are afraid to show their true authentic selves?
Well, let's consider these four helpful tips for successful dating:
1.Know our worth
2.Clearly define what we are looking for
3.Pay attention to the signs
4.Don't fall in love with the story in our mind
Will this be a guarantee for finding love at first sight? No. But, when we have followed the steps and the date still isn't quite what we hoped for, just remember to accept and enjoy the present moment even if the date isn't what we expected. After all, everything that shows up in our lives good or bad is there to teach us something so we can advance forward on our dating journey.
And when we are ready to throw in the towel on dating there are still other ways to express Happy Valentine's Day.
1.Phone a friend, spend time with a close friend
2.Engage in an activity we enjoy
3.Watch a comedy movie, turn on the DVD player or head out to the movies
4.Treat ourselves to some chocolate, chocolate, this is the day to indulge in chocolate
After all, who says we need a date for Valentine's Day? The best love connection is the one with self.