How Marta Kauffman Dealt With The 'Running Misogyny Issue' On 'Friends'

BEVERLY HILLS, CA - JULY 27:  Executive Producer Marta Kauffman speaks during the 'Five' panel during the Lifetime portion of
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - JULY 27: Executive Producer Marta Kauffman speaks during the 'Five' panel during the Lifetime portion of the 2011 Summer TCA Tour at the Beverly Hilton on July 27, 2011 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Frederick M. Brown/Getty Images)

At an ATX Television Festival panel on Friday morning, showrunner Marta Kauffman said that "Friends" had a "running misogyny issue." True to her glorious, feminist form, she knew exactly how to deal with it.

The problem started when Kauffman and David Crane were working on the pilot. "There was a man who was the head of the network at the time, a bit of a misogynist, lovely, lovely man," she told moderator Ben Blacker. "And he was having trouble with Monica sleeping with a guy on the first date."

They ran a dress rehearsal of the episode after which this unnamed misogynist said, "[Monica] deserved what she got" when the guy broke up with her soon after. Kauffman was stunned. "Fire came out of my nose," she said, not laughing.

Co-creator Crane conferred with the executive, who then decided to confront the issue by handing out a survey at the next dress rehearsal.

As Kauffman tells it: "He handed out a questionnaire and one of the questions was, 'For sleeping with a guy on a date, do you think Monica is A) A Slut, B) A Whore, C) Too Easy, D) None Of The Above. And it was all none of the above. Nobody cared except for this one guy."

Kauffman said she eventually understood the "note under the note" (as she put it) was that he wanted Monica to "care more," so she set up an emotional investment.

That was just one example of what Kauffman called a "running misogyny issue" headed by said executive. She took his objections in stride, doing her best to work his ideas in while staying true to her and Crane's vision for "Friends." But perhaps the best way she countered his problem with women was by sending him a gift.

"He was a little hurt by something I said once," she remembered. "So, I sent him a basket of pantyhose, tampons, lip stick and nail polish."


Hear that, Internet? Now would be a great time to set up a company that exclusively sells such baskets to be sent to misogynists.

Lauren Duca is currently covering the ATX Television Festival for The Huffington Post. Follow her on Twitter @laurenduca and expect much more to come!