11 Illustrations That Sum Up How Exhausting Modern Dating Can Be

Been there. 😑

Ever feel like a tiny part of your soul dies with each consecutive bad date you suffer through? Illustrator Julie Houts feels your pain.

The 29-year-old womenswear designer at J.Crew has gained quite a following on Instagram thanks in part to her witty, all-too-real takes on modern work life (oh, joy, another depressing desk salad for lunch!) and modern love.

Her drawings on the performance involved in dating are particularly relatable. Really, who hasn’t experienced this real-life nightmare?

pls no 🔚🔜💀

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Or had a “conversation” with a dude like this?

Or worried if anyone in the universe would ever come to appreciate your distinct highbrow/lowbrow taste?

Idk its just really hard 😔

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Too. Real.

Houts said her dating illustrations are “very much” drawn from personal experiences.

“I used to go on marathon weeks of dating where I’d be meeting people three or four days a week. It was sort of emotionally exhausting,” the Brooklyn-based artist told The Huffington Post. “While I’ve never punched myself in the face to get out of a date like one of my characters has, I’ve definitely fantasized about it during the course of a bad one.”

Collectively, Houts’ dating illustrations remind us of Carrie Bradshaw, if the “Sex and the City” protagonist had a much darker sense of humor and a Tinder account. (Of course, Carrie would hate Tinder, but damn, think of all the material she’d get out of it for her column.)

lol bye 👤

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Though Houts herself is no longer single ― “The cruel gods of Tinder finally decided that I had suffered enough and smiled upon me,” she joked ― she’s still drawing about love, relationships and dating.

“The truth is, I’m a pretty miserable dater. I just try to find the humor in dates,” she said.


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See more of Houts’ work about dating and relationships below and browse her new print shop, too.


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🙌🏻sry new phone who is this🙌🏻

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Ever gross yourself out so much you have to just go to sleep as a sort of cleansing ritual? 👀🐌

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Can you ever really KNOW someone? #GOODBYESUMMER 🌞🌞🌞 #ADIEU #alone #lightsweaters #ineverlovedyou

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🤔🤔🤔 #fun #flirty #girl

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When I am direct 👋🏻 #send

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