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Mom Reflects On 'The Good, The Bad And The Ugly' Of Motherhood

"I embrace it. All of it."
01/23/2017 05:10pm ET | Updated January 23, 2017

Inspired by another mother’s viral Instagram post, a Miami mom showed her support for other mothers by encouraging them to be vocal about their postpartum experiences.

On Jan. 21, Stella Gomez posted a photo on Instagram that shows her stomach and her 6-month-old daughter. In the caption, she wrote that “motherhood is simply the most rewarding,” but that there is another side to it that “no one really talks about.” Gomez then wrote about postpartum depression and the unreal expectations of mothers. She also mentioned the pressure moms feel about their bodies.

“Yes, you’ll still look pregnant right after giving birth,” she wrote. “No, your old clothes won’t fit right away... Yes, we get these marks that are here to stay.”

I keep going back & forth on whether or not I should post this picture. It isn't the most flattering of photos, heck it isn't flattering at all. But there is more than meets the eye and this is more than just a photo. Pregnancy & Birthing truly is a wonderful thing and Motherhood is simply the most rewarding however there is the other side of all this beauty that no one really talks about and I am not sure why. There are SO many expectations as a (new) mom yet we barely take into consideration everything that a woman goes through from pregnancy to giving birth to becoming a Mother. Physical, mental and emotional. Yes, you'll still look pregnant right after giving birth - No, your old clothes won't fit right away and for some of us - Yes, we get these marks that are here to stay. But see, this is FAR more than just a photo and these marks go deeper than you think. This is about adjusting into a new role, it's about figuring out how to raise a child, how to do all these things you've never done before. This is about how to be a new Mom without crying every second that you can't figure out why your baby is crying. This for those bad days and breaking down. This is for trying, for dedicating, for working hard and for putting myself last just so I could put her first. This is for Motherhood - the good, the bad & the ugly. And I embrace it. All of it. Cause this too shall pass and the only way to go from here is up. When a baby is born, so is a Mother and with it is a lifetime of lessons. So to all the Moms out there going through their own struggles, whatever it may be, kudos to you for doing THE hardest job there is while still able to manage a smile just for your little ones. Here's to us! ✨💕👶🏻🌸 #thisissomerealshit #raw #uncensored #motherhood #birthing #pregnancy #postpartum #postpartumdepression #stayingstrong #love #babies #breastfeeding #normalizebreastfeeding #tigerstripes #shareyourstripes #proud (THANK YOU @alexandrabrea_ for the huge inspiration ❤️)

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Gomez told The Huffington Post she felt inspired to talk openly about her postpartum experience because of a viral Instagram post from another mom who encouraged struggling mothers to not “lose hope.”

“She opened up about something so real and true and made me feel like I wasn’t alone and wasn’t the only one going through these challenges,” Gomez said. “It changed the way I looked at things and in turn, helped me in a way. She inspired me so much not only to talk about my own struggles but at the same time to rise above it.”

The Miami mom hopes her post motivates other mothers to share their postpartum stories because no mom should “be shamed or judged” for how they feel. Gomez then praised all the moms out there for going through “the good, the bad and the ugly” of motherhood. She also acknowledged her own hard work as a mother and what she’s done for her daughter.

“This is for trying, for dedicating, for working hard and for putting myself last just so I could put her first,” she wrote in her caption. “This is for motherhood ― the good, the bad and the ugly. And I embrace it.”

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