Mom's Message For Anyone Who Thinks Stay-At-Home Mothers Don't 'Work'

She offered a lengthy list of what she really does all day.

In an Instagram post, a mom of twins cleared up a misconception about stay-at-home mothers.

Anna Strode is known for her fitness videos that show her kids playing around her while she works out, which she posts on her Instagram page Bubs2Bikinis. On April 7, she wrote a post in response to a comment she’d received from someone who implied that because Strode stays at home with her kids, she doesn’t work.

Strode, who has 23-month-old twins and is pregnant and due in June, felt motivated by the comment to explain what being a stay-at-home mom really means.

Last week someone made a comment on my page and you know what, it upset me. It cut me pretty deep and while I do my best to remain positive - this hurt. It basically said 'I wish I got to stay at home all day and exercise with my child, instead I have to go to work and do WORK...' Work?! You think I don't WORK?! You think I sit at home all day and twiddle my thumbs? You think 2 x 22 month old toddlers just let me kick my feet up all day after I've done my morning workout? You think I'm beaming with energy as I grow a new baby and frantically do my best to keep up with twin boys that run rings around me?! Just to break it down... I exercise for 20-30 minutes a day. Sometimes stopping 20 times throughout to fetch toys, bring food, stop hair pulling, break up fights over toys and some days, stopping 2 minutes in because it just ain't happening that day! Other days we're so busy or the boys are so CLINGY / CRANKY (eg: this photo sums it up) the best workout I can get in is some squats, push ups and tricep dips while they eat or while we practice new words, counting to 10 or all the body parts we've learnt. I certainly DON'T spend all day exercising. My days are spent changing shitty nappies, dealing with tantrums, playing cars and trucks, making food that gets thrown on the floor before it's even tasted, walking the streets trying to get tired, grumpy children to nap, attempting to teach two little humans to SHARE instead of bite, pull hair, scratch or push each other, pushing swings, climbing up and down bloody forts that shouldn't even be in kids playgrounds because they are so damn unsafe, singing the alphabet, going for adventures to keep the bubs happy, vacuuming 3 times a day because of all that food that I worked so hard to cook wasn't even considered eating, oh and did I mention the constant battle of playing referee ALL day between two little cheeky monkeys that guess what DON'T 'just play happily and entertain each other all day!' For the record, TWINS don't do that!!! Maybe when they're older, yes! I hope so anyway ~ but for now, no - I literally for most of the part can't take my eyes off them! Cont. in comments 👇👇

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In her post, Strode wrote that she spends her days “changing shitty nappies,” “making food that gets thrown on the floor before it’s even tasted” and “attempting to teach two little humans to share instead of bite, pull hair, scratch or push each other,” among many other things. She also noted for anyone who thinks she spends all day working out that she tries to squeeze in a 20 to 30-minute workout every day, and even that is frequently interrupted by her kids.

As of Thursday, Strode’s post has been liked more than 5,000 times. She’s also received more than 1,000 comments, many of which are from Instagram users applauding Strode for her honesty.

Strode told The Huffington Post that the feedback on her page is positive most of the time, but that she also receives comments from people who shame her for working out instead of playing with her kids.

“Some people say that me working out means I’m not focusing on my children despite the fact my whole workout revolves around and includes them and is actually their favorite part of the day,” she said.

When asked whether she had anything she wanted to say to fellow stay-at-home moms, Strode said she wanted them to know they’re not alone.

“It can be demanding, isolating and damn hard work, but know what you are doing is incredible,” she said. “Be proud of just getting through each day!”

Strode also told HuffPost that all moms are “heroes,” no matter what their work entails.

“We all have different circumstances ― stay-at-home mums, work-out-of-the-home mums,” she said. “No matter what you do or how you do it, every mum that is doing what is best for them and their family is a hero in my eyes.”

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