My Life on the Fashion/Lifestyle Blogging D List!

After years of working jobs that I never felt satisfied me I realized the only thing in my life that was constant and that truly made me happy other than my family was fashion.
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Readers, followers and fans of the Frugal Flirty N Fab, today I come to you after 2 years of blogging to discuss my life on the Fashion Bloggers D-List. I'm going to give you an up close and personal look into what my life has been like over the past 2 years of blogging. I will try to make this as quick and as entertaining as possible hoping the fashion bloggers that come behind me will learn from my mistakes. Let me first start out with a brief explanation of why I began blogging.

After years of working jobs that I never felt satisfied me I realized the only thing in my life that was constant and that truly made me happy other than my family was fashion. I loved everything about fashion from the way you feel when you find a great pair of shoes to the way you can positively touch the lives of others by simply finding the right look. The thing that I really liked was the fact that I'm somehow capable of finding the most fabulous outfit without ever breaking the bank and I decided it was about time that I shared this gift with others. My first blog post was titled Keeping it Real on a Budget , I had no idea what was next to come....

I have a great personality, fairly cute, fun, and a great dresser so I'm sure I won't have a problem getting visitors to my blog I thought to myself, but boy was I wrong! After months of blogging and realizing I wasn't getting the visitors I wanted I told myself the right thing to do was to basically spam celebrities on Twitter to get attention for my blog, making this mistake number 1! One night after admittedly harassing celebrities, Tameka Raymond, ex-wife of Usher Raymond sent me an email basically telling me my blog sucked, she doesn't like blogs, she's not interested in reading mine, and to please, please, please stop sending it to her....My feelings were beyond hurt but I quickly realized that that was not the way to get the recognition I deserved, although Tameka was not so nice about it at all! The next thing I tried to do was get some feedback from other bloggers but that was mistake #2, because in the blogging world its every man for themselves I quickly learned. I did manage to make contact with Claire from The Fashion Bomb Daily who was very nice and willingly gave me some advice making her the sole exception. At that point it was just me and my blog and I knew I would learn the ins and outs through good old trial and error.....

On Jun 9th 2009 I was sure the blogging Gods had answered my prayers and my blog was finally turning the corner to Stardom when I wrote a post titled Love Love , woke up the next day to find that over 6000 visitors had suddenly visited my post. This was the big break I'd been waiting on but the stardom was short lived and after just 3 short days I was back to my original numbers which were becoming more and more depressing. 2009 played out all the same but I refused to quit because I actually loved blogging even though others didn't appear to be as passionate about my work.

I spent 2010-2016 learning how to make improvements to my blog and how to share my love of dresses and shoes with others. I also switched over from being just a Fashion Blogger to a Fashion/ Lifestyle Blogger which allows me to share more of my life and passions with all of you. I now realize just how powerful and life changing owning a good blog can be. I still struggled with finding a way to take my blog from Average to Greatness but I know that giving up would never be an option. Thanks to my blog I have met great people, attended fabulous shows, participated in charity events, become more involved in my community, inspired others, faced many of my biggest fears, and hopefully brought a little recognition to the lack of minorities in the fashion industry and theses experiences are priceless.

We are now 5 months into 2016 and while I am no where near where I want to be I am comfortable with the positive changes I've made on the Frugal Flirty N Fab's behalf. I was nominated as one of the best blogs of South Florida, Invited to more than a handful of local events, have my own Fan Page and plus my visitors have tripled 6x's over what they were way back when. Am I still on the Fashion Bloggers D list...No, I can honestly say I think I've managed to move to the B list and I'm definitely heading in the right direction, absolutely. Bloggers always keep in mind Rome wasn't built in a day.....