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Mythical Monogamy? Why Honesty (In Relationships) Is Always The Best Policy

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Just to set the record straight: I don't have a problem with monogamy. I don't think people in open relationships are more "evolved" than those in closed ones. I don't think open relationships are always honest and closed ones are always deceitful.

I believe in choice and acceptance.

I say this because it seems as if people who read my work think that I don't believe in monogamy. But it's not real monogamy that I have a problem with. The issue for me is that an overwhelming majority of people give lip service to the idea, but I'm not convinced that the people who claim to adhere to it actually do.

Regardless of the kind of relationship you have, dishonesty is bad. I think we can all agree on that.

People can be dishonest. And people do cheat. It is unfortunate that there are no hard statistics about adultery. Surveys and studies rely on people telling the truth and, obviously, cheating is something people lie about. I understand that anecdotal evidence is not scientific proof. But it is hard to ignore the signs I see all around me.

To finish reading "Mythical Monogamy" visit my open relationship forum "Open Up" on the Tango Magazine website.