Have you ever thought about what you are talking about when you actually speak?
We often rant or speak from emotions with no breath in between. We may also emotionally vomit all our stuff on another. This does not give you the ability to be empowered. If we stop and mindfully think what the other is saying and try to understand their place and the bigger picture, we can create a win/win situation. There may be compromise or sacrifice involved.
Often we can get wrapped up in the story while the facts are so clear.
If we look at any situation and break it down factually we can get to a solution more rapidly.
We can then let go of our point of view and having to win.
Have you ever noticed how we talk about our thoughts and even the thoughts about our thoughts?
If we take time doing this where does it get us? We can just feel the emotions wether they are happy, anger, sadness or any others. If we allow ourselves to go through the emotion we can stop analyzing why we are feeling a certain way and come out further ahead.
Think about the people in your life and the conversations you are having with them.
Are you coming from a reactive and ego place?
Or are you hearing truly and understanding the other?
Are you then conversing in a way that is a thoughtful, kind and authentic?
If two people are trying to reach the higher good, we can start to understand the conversations and communicate clearly and respectfully. When defense comes on board there is no room to converse. The trick is to separate emotions from the situation so you can hear clearly and come to a wiser decision.
If we look at our network of conversations daily, we can observe ourselves and what we are saying.
We can then begin to come from a place of authenticity and care. If we are vulnerable and speak our truth and fears while not blaming the other, we can generate more open dialogue and connection.
This will enhance our relationships with others and improve situations.
Emotional intelligence and how we communicate are key factors to success in life.