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New Year, New Life?

It's that time of year when many people make ambitious New Year's resolutions.
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It's that time of year when many people make ambitious New Year's resolutions. Whether it is getting in shape, devoting more time to family or getting organized, we vow that this will be the year that we finally stick to it and get it done. Many people seeking a significant life change resolve to get divorced. The divorce decision is not one that should be made lightly or on a whim. Unfortunately, many people who make a resolution to divorce get caught up in the exhilaration and impetuously file for divorce without taking the time to think it through logically. Many people become single focused and make this life altering decision based strictly on emotion. The decision to divorce must be made looking through various lenses; financial, legal and emotional. To determine if your decision is grounded in logic and not emotional impulse, take some time and ask yourself these questions;

Is the choice reactionary? Often we make decisions based upon the hurt or pain inflicted by a single incident. Was the event or issue so egregious as to justify ending your marriage?

Are there other options? Can your marriage be saved? Have your tried marriage counseling? Would counseling be helpful?

Does getting divorce make economic sense? Will getting divorced at this point in your life cause your financial ruination? Given your financial situation, does divorce make financial sense? Can you survive financially? Do you have the ability to support yourself and your children?

Can you afford to get divorced? Divorce is expensive. Legal fees and other professional fees can be costly. Do you have available resources to pay legal and other professional services?

Finally, but most importantly, after taking the time and rationally analyzing your situation, given all the facts and circumstances, does getting a divorce make sound financial, legal and emotional sense.

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