“Nice guys finish last”: so goes the well-worn mantra of the Nice Guy™. The cry of the long-suffering male friend who lets girls cry on his shoulder about their terrible ex only to watch them get with another macho jerk, the phrase oozes with self pity, as well as resentment toward all the women who don’t date these self-proclaimed nice guys. And therein lies the problem of the Nice Guy: If you think your friendship and kind actions have earned you a romantic relationship, those actions weren’t so nice to begin with. They were down payments on the relationship, or at least sex, that you hoped to get from the lady to whom you were purportedly being nice. In return for kindness and friendship, Nice Guys expect love and passion. If the object of their affection instead chooses another man, she may find that the Nice Guy doesn’t take too kindly to being overlooked.
The general attitude of the Nice Guy is that he deserves recognition for treating women with respect and thoughtfulness, but often this good treatment only applies to the women who he deems worthy. Beautiful women, virginal women, women who give him the attention he craves. Should a woman fall from his pedestal by engaging in "slutty" behavior, or by simply favoring men who are unlike him, he often finds that this particular woman doesn't deserve respect. Rather than treating women as humans, Nice Guys treat them like prizes who can gain or lose value by being given out to too many men -- and who ought to award their sexual favors to the most morally upstanding guy around. (Conveniently, Nice Guys often think this is them.)
In fiction as in life, many men seem great until they’re rejected or otherwise disappointed. Some fictional Nice Guys hide their darker sides effectively, while others are easily spotted as hypocrites. Though all of the characters listed below talk a good game when it comes to being nice and respecting women, their feelings of entitlement can’t be hidden forever.
Here are 11 male book characters who aren’t as nice as they first seem to be:
- Angel Clare - Tess of the D’Urbervilles by Thomas Hardy: Angel Clare -- whose name means something along the lines of “bright angel” -- seems like the perfect man at first. He’s handsome, pure of heart, educated, humble, and thoughtful, and he plumes himself on treating Tess with respect: “Clare was a man with a conscience. Tess was no insignificant creature to toy with and dismiss; but a woman living her precious life -- a life which, to herself who endured or enjoyed it, possessed as great a dimension as the life of the mightiest to himself.” But when it comes right down to it, Angel reveals the darker side that’s hiding beneath his fine veneer. On the night of their wedding, he confesses to having spent two wild nights with a strange woman. But when Tess confesses that she too has slept with another man -- though in her case it was rape, not a voluntary fling -- Angel suddenly finds sexual impurity to be an unforgivable offense. The “freshness” and “virginity” he so loved about her have been tainted, and he is unable to treat her as a “woman living her precious life” equal to his own. Instead, he abandons Tess, and her life is wrecked in the wake of his rejection. Angel might seem like a nice guy compared to Alec the rapist, but really he’s a Nice Guy -- demanding credit for his respect for women while secretly thinking of them as commodities that can be ruined through sexual contact with other men.