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Playful Parenting: Reconnecting you to your Authentic Self

At some point in life (I'm guessing when we all got older, and were sent to school) we all had to learn how to keep ourselves under control and meet the expectations of the adults around us; they liked to call it good behavior.
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We are inherently playful. Inherently. We inherited our playfulness from our parents, our parents'parents, and, if you want to carry it back to the source, from life itself. This partly explains why we respond so immediately to playfulness - not just when manifested by our children, or any child, but anyone's playfulness. Not just anyone's, but even that of animals. We are so inherently playful that we don't have to be even vaguely concerned that we might lose our playfulness. It is built into our bodies, into our very genes.-Bernie Dekoven: Author of A Playful Path

At some point in life (I'm guessing when we all got older, and were sent to school) we all had to learn how to keep ourselves under control and meet the expectations of the adults around us; they liked to call it good behavior. At a certain age everyone is told "don't run down the aisles, don't sing out loud, don't talk too loud, don't ask too many questions... the don't list could go on forever.

It wasn't until I decided to start exploring the memories of my childhood, did I realize how "adulting" sucks the fun out of life, and is a total drag. Why couldn't we pretend to be dinosaurs walking through the hallway, or sing our favorite song out loud? Singing, dancing, and pretending are all things that STILL bring me joy, just because i'm in a bigger body and have a bigger mind means I can't play anymore?

When I became a parent I realized this was my chance to go back to my playful nature and act like a child once more! I had never been so excited in my life to embark on a journey that would allow me to PLAY and interact on a silly level that brought me laughs and so much happiness! You know why people say having a baby is the happiest time of your life...? Because people have STOPPED playing, and generally, their child reminds them of who they STILL are on the inside!

Psychologists and spiritualists alike have come to agree that the subconscious mind is imprinted by our childhood experiences, creating a filter in us that we carry through the rest of our life called our Inner Child. When our parents and teachers started telling us not to be our Authentic selves, instead telling us keep our mouths shut and hands to ourselves, we all lost one of the biggest pieces of our souls; our Inner Child.

How do we get back in touch with the Inner Child we lost long ago and far away? Parenting is the best way to bring your mind back, but let's take this a step further. Yesterday I took my daughter and her two year old friend to the store by myself, usually a task a parent would dislike, (TWO TODDLERS ON YOUR OWN?!), but I decided to make this an adventure to the store I would never forget. I got a parking spot right in the front row, and grabbed the red car shopping cart so the toddlers could pretend to drive. Of course the toddlers were loud as heck, but I didn't let that get me down, I joined right in the fun! I ran down the aisle in the shopping cart singing to them songs of joy and happiness. People looked at me as if I were doing something so absurd, to be having fun in the grocery store! I didn't notice because my soul was bursting with joy and bliss, I had unleashed my Inner Child and was finally playing again!

Adults are trained to take life so seriously, they forget to nourish themselves with the only thing they craved when they were young; playfulness. We came into this world with the biggest desire to play, imagine if we all went back to this place of innocence and honored the needs of our Inner Child?

I am giving you FULL permission (adult to adult) to Reconnect with your Authentic Self and run with your two your old through the grocery store. The world needs more light-hearted, playful moments, join the Playful Movement, and put down your serious face, life is too precious not to play!