From the book “Life is a Rainbow”
Love is the most powerful emotion we have. It is more powerful than fear, hate or judgment. Love is the be all, end all. When you learn to use love in your home, you can witness total transformation of everyone in it.
I grew up in a home with 6 siblings. It was a fun house, all the neighborhood kids used to want to hang at our house. My mom led the home with her heart, and everyone who entered it could feel the love. My childhood home vibrated love.
The best part is as children we were loved exactly the way we were. We were perfect. There was very little discipline, rules or structure. As my mom vibrated love and projected that were all perfect, we rose to the occasion. We were overachievers, straight-A students. We rose up to become what she saw in us. I realize that this may seem like radical parenting to you, but I ask you, do you have anyone who loves you just the way you are? Someone who sees the good in you. When you mess up, they say, “I’m sure that you’ll never do that again.” How does that make you feel? In contrast, have you ever had anyone be super critical of you? Always seeing the bad? How does that make you feel? Well, I know the answer because I lived it.
Radical parenting is when you lead with you heart “Love.” And know that everything is perfect. My mom had a great saying, she used to say: Someday we’ll look back at this and laugh. To put it differently, she was saying, everything in the moment is perfect. When your motto is “Everything is perfect” than you are not pushing against life. You are in the flow. Being in the flow of life will take any situation and quickly move it forward. Being in love, vibrating love is where your true power lies.
Here are a few tips for parenting from the heart:
1) Picture your home as a heart. Visualize the heart beating and the vibration is so strong that your entire house is love.
2) When you wake up in the morning visualize your child’s heart and send love from your heart to their heart. They will feel it!
3) Whatever happens with your children, love that. Love the tantrums, the restlessness and everything that comes up.
3) Use the mantra “Everything is perfect.” Accept what is and stay in the flow of life. When you don’t push against a stage or experience, it will transform.
4) Love is the most powerful tool in your toolbox use it often.
Be radical. Radical in love and acceptance. Let go of judgment and control. Watch the magic happen. Your home will vibrate love. Your children will know that they are loved. And you will receive the love back to you. And round and round it goes, radical parenting with radical love.