“And it is better for you that you fast, if you only knew” Quran (2:184).
Ramadan is the month of mandatory fasting for all able adults without valid exemptions. Simply stated, fasting in Ramadan is the act of complete abstaining from food, drink, smoking and intimate spousal relationships from dawn to sunset everyday for the whole ninth month of the Islamic calendar. It is culminated in the Night of Power, when the Quran was revealed to the Prophet Mohammad and when all-night worship is equal to that of a lifetime. Ramadan is concluded in the celebration of Eid Al-Fitr, when the local community meet to congratulate each others of a new beginning after a month of soul-searching, worship and reflection. It is a powerful platform for rebirth of individuals, families and communities.
However, many observant Muslims forget that beneath the simple definition of fasting lies more complex behavioral expectations. Why would God ask the believers to abstain from life-sustaining necessities and pleasures for a whole month? Is it only to make them hungry and thirsty for his sake so they can prove that they are good believes or are there other achievable and beneficial goals? The Quran says clearly speaking about fasting in Ramadan : “God does not want to make it difficult for you but He wants to make it easy” Quran 2:185. As in all rituals and acts of worship, there are higher purposes, or Makased in Arabic. Abstaining from food and drinks is only the minimum requirement. Fasting believers are also expected to reflect the mercy of the month in their daily interactions, behaviors, relationships. By changing their daily regimen for a whole month, they are expected to change themselves by breaking bad and harmful habits and quitting any addictions that crept into their lives in the other 11 months of the year. Breaking bad habits is not easy, but Ramadan gives us a whole month to do so. God invites us in Ramadan to exert our effort to change ourselves, our families and our community by embracing a simple paradigm: if you are able to abstain from what is lawful and life-sustaining, i.e. food and water, shouldn’t you be able to abstain from what is harmful and unnecessary?
Early believers probably understood the deep purposes of fasting intuitively as they wholeheartedly embraced their faith. With time, and not unlike other religions, Islam and its rituals became more of cultural practices than a fully embraced and understood way of life. Muslims, or the majority of them, focused on the acts of worship not on the substance, and on the how not on the why. When it comes to Ramadan, we tend to trivialize our fasting by indulging in acts and practices that run-counter to the very essence of the month.
Here is a short list of trends and practices that are counterproductive to the essence and purpose of fasting. You have the whole month to cleanse yourself from them:
Arguing over the Hilal or moon sighting. The Islamic, or Hijri, year, like the Jewish year, is based on the lunar calendar. The Lunar year is about 11 days shorter than the Gregorian year and that is why Ramadan keep moving earlier and spans all seasons. Ramadan is the ninth month of the Islamic year. Lunar month starts by the birth of a new moon. The birth of a new moon can be determined by moon sighting by naked eye, telescopes or by scientific calculations. The beginning of the month may be different from a country to another based on geography. The majority of Muslim scholars are with the opinion that Muslims, living in one country or throughout the world, should start and end the month together. But some disagree and follow other criteria with varying degrees of flexibility or rigidity. Many Muslims spend hours arguing whether Ramadan started or ended based on which criteria, often with minimal knowledge of the topic. Don’t waste time arguing this issue. Leave it to the experts. Rather focus on starting your month on a strong footing. Set certain achievable goals for you and your family. Learn something that may benefit yourself and your community and avoid the unnecessary knowledge.
Overeating and indulging in food, drinks, and sweets. Fasting should teach us self control and discipline over our bodies and over what we consume. We should eat in moderation after breaking the fast and try to loose some weight. Focus on nutritious, not junk, fatty or high calorie, food. Eat local, seasonal, halal, wholesome and green. Learn how to cook and eat healthy. Exercise after Iftar. Brisk walk is a good exercise even for 30 minutes every night. Taraweeh prayer is also a good exercise. We have an epidemic of Obesity and "fattening of America,”. An estimated 160 million Americans are either obese or overweight. Nearly three-quarters of American men and more than 60% of women are obese or overweight. Nearly 30% of boys and girls under age 20 are either obese or overweight. and there is a compelling argument to be made that we should eat less, lose weight, and be more conscious of our health. The Prophet Mohammad taught us moderation and self control in all aspects of life, and forbade us to harm ourselves, others or nature.
Doing what is harmful or Haram. The concept of sin, or Haram, in Islam includes all what can harm self, family, community or nature. Islamic rulings are meant to protect five essentials: faith, life, intellect, property and family. Anything that violates these essential is considered Haram or sinful with varying degrees of gravity. The worst sins are murders and rejecting the presence of God. In general, actions are permissible unless there is credible and corroborated evidence of otherwise. Intentional eating and drinking will definitely nullify the physical part of fasting, but there are other deeds and conducts that will undermine the essence of fasting rendering the physical part meaningless. Ramadan is your chance to avoid harm to your body, mind, faith, family, wealth, community and earth. How about quitting smoking and other addictions? How about mending the relationships with your close and extended family members?
Backbiting, gossiping, slandering, and spreading rumors. Social media has made it easy to spread all kind of rumors and falsehoods. Fake news have became a new phenomenon. Some thinks that we are entering into what is called the post-truth world. President Trump has been caught in the act of “lying” multiple times in his first few months in office, apparently without remorse or apology. Nevertheless, telling the truth is a universal value. Islam consider lying, slandering and spreading rumors major sins. Quitting the pleasure of tasting food and water is the minimum of fasting but what is more important is quitting what may ruin relationships and weaken ties within your family and the community. Those who lie and hurt other people while fasting, gain nothing but thirst and hunger. Backstabbing, gossiping and spreading falsehood is likened to the eating of flesh of cadaver in the Quran (49:12).
Excessive consumption and waste. Fasting is not an excuse for wasting too much food or overspending. If anything it is a time for saving on your meals and spending on others’ meals. Feed the poor and the refugees, invite relatives and friends, but do not show off or compete in overspending. As it turns out, we waste an incredible amount of food - an estimated 27% of food available for consumption - and it happens at the supermarket, in restaurants and cafeterias, and in our very own kitchens. That breaks down to about a pound of food for every American, wasted every single day. If we can cut down your calories, why not cutting down on our Carbon production? We are created to take care of the earth not to take over it and ruin it. Make your Ramadan “Green” by reducing your Carbon Footprint. Calculate your footprint in the beginning of the month and set realistic goals to shrink it by the end of the month? Global warming can be dampened by replacing your light bulbs by LED, using high efficiency appliances and reducing fossil fuel consumption. Invest in fuel-efficient or electric vehicle and carpool to the Mosque.
Laziness and oversleeping. Fasting is not meant to disrupt work or change your circadian rhythm. Some people use fasting for not working and they don’t feel motivated to perform their daily routines. Some countries slow down significantly during Ramadan. That is not consistent with the tradition of the Prophet. Don’t change your work schedule. Pray as tolerated after iftar, and sleep for 7 hours at night. Beware of sleep deprivation or oversleeping. Both are harmful. Power nap in the afternoon is a good idea but don’t nap more than 30 minutes unless you are sleep deprived. The five calls for ritualistic prayer remind Muslims to get up early in the day and succeed in work, so get busy working even if you are fasting.
Wasting time on the screen. Social media have became the new addiction. We spend an average of four hours and half every day watching TV. Adults in the United States devote about 10 hours and 39 minutes each day to consume media, including our tablets, smartphones, personal computers, multimedia devices, video games, radios, DVDs, DVRs and TVs. In Muslim-majority countries, TV channels compete in showing their best programs during Ramadan. Nothing wrong in watching media in moderation. But time is precious. If people are spending over 50 hours a week with media for entertainment purposes, then there's really no time left for any of the other things we value. Too much screen time and other inactive behaviors also have been linked to obesity risk, especially in children. So this Ramadan, throw out those extra screens, and don't put one in your bedroom. Learn to shut down the iPads and smartphones before you go to sleep and limit the use. Read one or two books. It is much more rewarding.
Getting angry and losing control. Self control is one of the main goal of fasting. It is probably a very effective method to sharpen our tools and increase our resilience. By improving our resilience, we are better equipped to deal with stress. That is why fasting was prescribed and practiced in many traditions. Fasting should make us humble, down to earth, kind and compassionate. Ramadan should teach us patience and tolerance when we are insulted or provoked. It is not an excuse for venting or violence. If you have a problem with anger, fasting might be one of the tools to manage it. Like other communities, Muslims are not immune from domestic violence. If you have a problem with domestic violence, Ramadan may be the best time to address this disease and seek professional help. There are many resources in the community. It was reported that the Prophet Mohammad said “Whoever dignified women, he is dignified and whoever insulted them he is disgraceful”. Don’t be a disgrace.
Reading the Quran without understanding. Ramadan is called the month of the Quran, the divine book that was revealed to the Prophet Mohammad over 23 years. The Quran was rehearsed in totality by Prophet Mohammad in the month of Ramadan in the last year before he died. Muslims dedicate time every day for reading the Quran. They listen to it in the nightly prayers after breaking the fast,Taraweeh. They are instructed to reflect on and ponder about its verses. Like other divine texts, it has to be comprehended before it can be implemented. Recent trends in Mosques and Islamic schools are focusing on recitation and memorization of the Quran at the expense of proper knowledge. Proper understanding requires mastery of the arabic language, its grammar and metaphors, the reasons and purposes of certain verses, their historic context and order, how did the Prophet and his disciples react to the revelation and how did they apply it in their lives, what is abrogated and what is not, what is general and what is specific, or what is termed the sciences of Quran. The abhorrent interpretation of certain verses of the Quran by ISIS, Boko haram, Al-Qaeda and other violent groups, stem from the disconnection between the understanding of the text and its context. These groups, not unlike the Kharijites hundreds of years before them, apply certain texts in a situations that do not meet the scholarly understanding of the text. Their extremist ideology, targeting the youth, the new converts and the vulnerable, is very harmful to Islam and to humanity. It masquerades itself as a credible Islamic ideology, but it is not. Spend time in Ramadan with you children and discuss with them some of these difficult issues. Listen to them carefully and don’t disregard their concerns. Young Muslims are increasingly bullied in schools and are under intense pressure by their peers and the media. They have to feel comfortable to speak freely to their families. Ask local scholars if you are faced with difficult questions.
Forgetting the less fortunate. Ramadan is not an use for inviting the wealthy to extravagant meals while ignoring the poor. One of the main purposes of fasting is to identify with those who don’t have the means to have three meals or even one meals. 795 million people on earth suffer from hunger and about 50 million people in the US suffer from food insecurity- a fivefold jump since the late 1960s. When you plan our Iftars, remember to invite those who are usually forgotten. Invite the less privileged among your family members, neighbors and the refugees. Volunteer to feed the homeless in your city soup kitchens. Make a plan to visit few refugee families in Ramadan. There are 18,000 Syrian refugees who were resettled among us in the past 2 years, among them about 150 families in Chicago area. Iftar is for the family to eat together and Taraweeh is for the community to come together. There are major famines in several countries including South Sudan, Yemen, Somalia and Nigeria. Global warming, conflicts, and poor governance are to be blamed. We should not forget our brothers and sisters in humanity who are starving. Designate part of your Zakat for sending life-sustaining food baskets and do your part to fight hunger.
The Muslim Poet Rumi said few centuries ago:
“There’s hidden sweetness in the stomach’s emptiness.
with fasting, every moment a new song comes out of the fire.
The fog clears, and new energy makes you
run up the steps in front of you”
So this Ramadan, why not make it a month of momentous changes? Open a new page in your life. Overthrow the old you and replaces it with a renewed one. Make Ramadan what it is meant to be. Make it a revolution.