In one week, it seemed that every conversation I had ended the same way: "You need to read Dyer's work," they'd say. So I took the hint and on a 12-hour drive to Buffalo, New York, I listened to his audiobook memoir, fueled by the vocal tones of Dyer himself reading his life's story.
When the book (and Dyer's story) came to a close, I did what most people do after being introduced to Dyer's work. I downloaded 10 of his audiobooks.
Dr. Dyer spoke often about self-actualization, the concept founded by Abraham Maslow where a person needs to fulfill certain biological needs before one can work on developing into higher consciousness and evolve into the greatest version of oneself (and then sharing that genius to better the world). Put simply, before someone can start thinking about deep existential questions like, "What's my purpose?" for instance, they need to have a steady supply of food, shelter, water, and feel safe.
Inspired by Dyer's work, here are three questions to ask yourself to launch you into self-actualization.
Today's message in a clickable tweet: "Your purpose is to serve others. It's as simple as that."
1. Who Am I Serving?
Dyer said that the answer to the question, "What is my purpose?" is always the same. Your purpose is to serve others. It's as simple as that.
The trick is to find out what you (and only you) can serve to others. That means activating your unique genius and opening it up to the world.
Our amalgamation of unique experiences have molded us into who we are today. We all have a beautiful story, full of "coincidence," that led to you developing your unique genius. It's up to you whether or not you're willing to offer it to others.
Are you willing to share your unique genius with the world?
For me, I've learned that I have a unique talent to help people feel comfortable sharing their own stories. Because I am so open with my story and my struggles, I allow other people to be real and vulnerable.
2. What Am I Creating?
In The Artist's Way, by Julia Cameron, she says that finding a sense of purpose in life comes through creating art.
Cameron argues that so many people in the rat race of a 9-5 get caught up in constantly serving others through either parenting, working a job that doesn't fulfill the soul but provides a paycheck, or maintaining our possessions (e.g., home, car).
We all need to find time to create art, says Cameron, which only deepens our ability to serve others. This could be crafting a compelling article, painting, singing, dancing, or building a desk. When we create art, we're activating our innate form of self. We're tapping into the divine source of creation.
So, take your self on a date. Cameron suggests that even the busiest of people can find time to create art. Once a week, find a time (and put it in your calendar) to take your artist self on a date. It could be only for 20 minutes or so, but it's focused time on inspiring the artist that is within all of us.
If you played trombone as a kid and stopped playing it when you became a parent or starting working a 9-5, spend 20 minutes with your trombone or listen to a your favorite music artist.
If you painted as a kid, but haven't picked up the brush and easel in years, spend just twenty minutes putting paint on white canvas. See what happens.
It doesn't matter necessarily what you create. You can erase your writing or even throw out the painting when you're done if you want. What matters is that you consciously spend time with your artist self. You take part in the act of creating art for the sake of saying hello to the artist that lives inside all of us.
3. What Am I Scared of?
What's often not talked about with Maslow's research is that self-esteem needs to be fulfilled before someone can play in self-actualization.
We talk ourselves out of things that can have the most impact in our lives. Like Jay Stolar pointed out to me, so often we just need to get out of our own way.
I see this all the time with college students who enter the university and take "the safe route" because they want to make sure that their degree will guarantee a paycheck that will pay back student loans and provide for a future family. But I think we've all learned that there's no "safe" degree. We all know MBA graduates who still haven't landed the coveted CEO position, right?
Five years into a job that doesn't fuel their soul, many students often come back to tell me that they're thinking of going back to school to go into a career that fuels their soul.
We can't ignore our souls. Our internal intention is with us all the time. It's up to us to recognize it, shake hands with it, and empower it.
Like what you are reading? Here is a free copy of Your Life on Purpose: Ten Simple Tips to Live a Life with Impact (no, you don't have to give up your email). If you prefer to listen, here's my 10-minute daily podcast on living intentionally.
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