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Reasons NOT To Stay In A Bad Marriage

Staying in an bad marriage sends a message to your kids that it is okay to accept a life of unhappiness. But it is not okay.
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Divorce sucks.

The thought of slogging through painful lawyer meetings, dealing with social stress and living alone is enough to get people to reconsider their divorces altogether -- no matter how miserable their marriages are.

But you're different. You've thought it through, and you're committed to moving forward. But you're scared. Have faith, and consider that:

1. Getting divorced is infinitely better than staying in a bad marriage. It proves that you have the courage to live a life of happiness. And if you're happier, you'll be a far more effective parent.

2. You've tried everything, because you really wanted to keep it together. And now the last issue is dealing with, "what will others think?" But having the courage to reject the societal pressure to uphold a "married" label and accept your divorce can be liberating. You'll learn far more about yourself, what you truly value, and eventually learn to embrace it.

3. You will inflict far less damage on your kids by letting go than if you stayed in a marriage filled with anger and sadness.

4. You will be happier. Learning to let go and step into the unknown may be the single most important thing you can do for your own sanity, and the sanity of those around you.

5. Because all of the reasons to stay in the marriage-- money, kids, stability, and upholding your vow, were important. Until you realize that you are sacrificing the essence of what makes you a happy and self-fulfilled human being.

6. Life is simply too precious and too short to waste on continuing the madness of a poor or failed marriage.

7. Staying in an bad marriage sends a message to your kids that it is okay to accept a life of unhappiness. But it is not okay. Teach your kids that it important to have tried, but it is ok to have failed. And it is equally important to move forward in life.

Good luck!
Carey

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