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Remembering Your Worth This Holiday Season

As our life moves at full speed all around us, we must force ourselves to slow down and take a breath. We must remind ourselves there is joy this holiday season.
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I'm hiding in my car listening to the rain fall on the roof while my kids are in dress rehearsal for their upcoming dance performance. I just don't have the energy to be in there.

Most people see me as an extrovert, but I'm actually a closet introvert. I get my energy from hiding, and right now my energy is zapped.

It's just a few days away -- this joyous holiday -- and we are constantly being reminded of what we haven't yet done and what we still need to do.

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Our lists are getting bigger instead of smaller. Our energy is dwindling and our stress is increasing.

Every time we turn around, our children are counting down the days for us. Some days, their pure excitement and joy is lost on us.

Many of us are dealing with the fear of facing the holiday without a loved one. Anticipating what it will feel like to celebrate new traditions. Scared of what it will feel like without them here.

Others are dealing with stresses from financial situations, family conflicts, illness and many other things that seem magnified at this time of the year. Wondering how they are going to manage feeling complete on Christmas morning.

As our life moves at full speed all around us, we must force ourselves to slow down and take a breath.

We must remind ourselves there is joy this holiday season.

We doubt our abilities as women, mothers, workers, and partners. We get lost in the competition. We question our values and wonder if the holiday that we are preparing for our family is good enough.

We scrutinize every part of our life and compare it to others.

We question our abilities as moms when we watch another mom gracefully take it all on. We panic at work when we think we have lost our edge with everything that we are juggling. We worry that we may lose the connection with our partner as we try to balance all of the pieces.

We put so much pressure on ourselves to do everything right. We sometimes feel like our only option is to please others. When we look at ourselves, we feel that nothing we do is ever sufficient.

We listen to that voice in our head that tells us to do more -- be better.

As our life moves at full speed all around us, we must force ourselves to slow down and take a breath.

We must remind ourselves there is joy this holiday season.

I know life can sometimes be tough. It is in those moments that you must tell yourself "I'm tougher!"

If you find yourself feeling empty, tired or overwhelmed, please find the strength to tell yourself that you are doing a great job. You are ENOUGH.

When you find yourself doubting your energy or wondering if what you are doing is good enough, I want you to tell yourself a few simple things.

Today, I am going to do what I can, with the knowledge I have and trust what I know. That is ENOUGH. Believe in what you know and embrace what you don't. Take comfort knowing that you are enough.

Believe in your ability to feel joy this season. Allow yourself to be vulnerable, confident, scared, excited, overwhelmed, and content. There is room in your life for all of those things.

Remember your worth this holiday season.