Teenage runaways fall into two categories: chronic and episodic.
Chronic running away is a routine power ploy that could involve substance abuse, while episodic running away involves isolated incidents in which a humiliating event, such as a pregnancy or fear of parental disapproval, triggers a teenager to flee home.
"Running away is faulty problem solving. When teenagers make a mistake, they should face reality rather than run. They have to develop more constructive problem solving and coping skills, and it's on the parents to work with teens, to let them know it's okay to make a mistake as long as they own up to it," said Alan Barry, Ph.D., Commissioner for Greenwich, Connecticut's Department of Social Services.
Although emerging teenagers are more critical of and resistant to their parents, Barry stressed that open lines of family communication are paramount. Establishing and maintaining support systems steers teenagers toward facing, rather than escaping, their problems.
In today's media-saturated world, teenage risky behavior often springs from technology as well.
"We haven't really dealt completely with the technology aspects of social media. With cyber-bullying and instant information, I think there's a lot more stress. It's toxic stress: the more stress kids have in their lives, the less they're able to cope," said Barry.
Acknowledging and tackling stress is no foreign ground for Barry, whose department's Community Partnership Program has consistently supported TeenTalk, a mental health service providing crisis counselors to Greenwich's Western and Central Middle Schools.
"In the aftermath of the Sandy Hook tragedy, there was quite a bit of attention and resources toward school security. I felt that at the same time, what was not really being addressed was mental health support for adolescents, and we already had an excellent program with TeenTalk providing a counselor at Western Middle School," said Barry, who pushed for TeenTalk's expansion to Central Middle School in 2014 and Eastern Middle School in 2015.
Barry seeks to spread TeenTalk and other social emotional learning programs to Greenwich's elementary schools and preschools. Such an extension would identify children with learning or behavior issues as soon as possible, allow counselors and families to work on resolving child developmental problems, and equip children with healthy decision-making skills for life.
The shortfall: the Greenwich Department of Social Services lacks enough mental health consultation programs working alongside these social emotional learning programs.
"When a child is identified with having behavior problems, we don't have enough resources at this point to provide direct assistance for the child and family... and problems get more complicated and difficult to resolve later on, especially for a teenager who has a lot of stress," said Barry.
Escalating unemployment rates fuel Barry's desire to work with kids virtually from the womb.
"To resolve the achievement gap and employment challenges, the two key areas for us to work on are education and employment. Many of the job opportunities that were here, such as manufacturing jobs, are no longer available because of the changing global environment." -Alan Barry, Ph.D., Commissioner for the Greenwich Department of Social Services.
Barry, whose department provides case management services that help clients build long-term self-sufficiency and economic independence, aims to direct children from a young age to a college or vocational track.
"It's important to start thinking earlier," Barry said.
This piece originally appeared in the Greenwich Free Press on July 19, 2015.