Shift Your Life By Choosing Love

Photo by <a href="" target="_blank">John Krivec</a>
Photo by John Krivec

When you wake up everyday, you have a choice of who you want to be that day, this day.  Why not chose to BE the YOU that you really want to be?

You are the only one who can create your life experience. You create it for yourself every single moment of every single day. The words you chose, the emotions you feel, the thoughts you think and the thoughts you choose to believe.

This doesn’t mean that if you wake up a hot mess, and get angry for some silly reason, that you’ve screwed your day up.  No, choose to reframe it and in the next moment choose to feel love, or the next, or the next. You see where I’m going. Every moment is a choice, and when you can take a moment to be a little objective, to reframe it, you can create a life you love.

You will still get angry, you may still say something you don’t mean in the heat of the moment. Choosing to be YOU, means being flawed, and loving who you are anyway. So be a hot mess AND chose love.

Your emotions will always be with you and they will guide you. That’s a really good thing! So you’re ticked off....awesome! Why? You can choose to use that to create a loving change in your life. I’m not even talking about major life shifts here, I’m talking about the little things. You stub your toe on the coffee table, instead of allowing it to nose-dive your day, reframe it, choose to see it with love. Ouch, yes, maybe you could sit and take a little break and breathe for a few minutes. Maybe your husband comes home in a bad mood and you would typically jump on board and let it dampen your evening, instead reframe it as an opportunity to keep your mood high vibe. Perhaps you get caught in a spring rain shower, it could be a total mess, or you could choose to laugh and see it as a beautiful part of nature. Who knows what awesomeness will transpire just because you chose to laugh and see that moment with love.

Every moment of your life is a choice. All of those moments add up to create YOUR life. Don’t let one moment of frustration drag you into a moment of anger and create a whole wasted day of feeling sorry for yourself. Actively choose say or do something out of love, even if you say it to yourself in the mirror. Instead of calling yourself a fool (or something worse) for dropping something on the kitchen floor, STOP, forgive yourself, and act out of love. Make that choice, and let that moment of love flow into another moment of love and create an amazing day!

Today, I woke up in a grateful mood. Awesome, right? Then one thing didn't happen as expected, and I let frustration take over. It took me a good hour to shift back to LOVE.  I know it doesn’t have to take 30 seconds even. However, I’m human, I’m flawed, and I LOVE myself for being both. With a bit of practice that shift will happen quicker and quicker. Don't talk yourself out of choosing love because you don't have time or are not practiced at it...yet. Today I made a choice for myself to go to the beach for 5 minutes (because I had another commitment) just to close my eyes and breathe, and in that choice of love...what those 5 minutes gave back to me feels like a warmth and love that can’t be shaken. 

I have made a promise to myself to show up AS I AM (even a hot mess) everyday. I am committed to practice that simple shift to reframe my life moment by moment, choosing love. 

Show UP.  BE you! Be REAL. Choose LOVE!

Believe. IN YOU

TaraBella is a Life Coach, Writer, Expressive Arts Therapist and Mentor.  Since 2007 she has been on a mission to be a shining light and inspiration daily. With a focus on self-love and authenticity, her passion is to help women discover their own inner passion and live truly empowered and authentic lives!

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