Soulmates -- for some this may create visions of Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks in Sleepless in Seattle, that person you are destined to meet, that fate will create the circumstances where you will see each other and so on... Now, don't get me wrong I am a sucker for a romantic comedy and I think Meg Ryan is great, but we all do know that's just a movie, right?
After reading up on this term "soulmates," what seems to be a common thread is this concept of one person making you feel completely whole and having this eternal lifelong bond with them. Probably like a ying-yang thing. Now, I know I probably sound like a cynic but if you're meeting someone out of college or during college who you love enough to marry -- would you know that they make you feel completely whole? At the age of 22 do you really know what completely whole feels like? Or, is it more what you think it feels like at that point in your life? Here's another thought, if everyone truly loves differently and every relationship is unique than wouldn't what a soulmate is, mean something different for everyone? Shouldn't there be a definition or term for each type of relationship?
So, as we wander through life with our significant others I will put it out there that yes, we definitely know that the person we are with is perfect for us. We wouldn't want to be with anyone else. I knew that when I met my husband 20 years ago and I know that now but I'm not sure I would have said my husband was my soulmate when I first met him. I'm not sure in the 20 years we have been together we have ever used the word. Maybe that's it -- maybe the word has become too overused and very commercialized -- I mean doesn't every dating site use it? Here's a suggestion, why don't you get your creative Supermom juices flowing and have some fun with your significant other in describing what would you call your relationship with each other. Are you the ying to their yang? Milk and Cookies? Macaroni and Cheese? Choose something that just means you are meant to be together whatever that means to you and however that looks to just the two of you. For me and my guy, it's simply Peanut Butter and Jelly.