First off, I would like to introduce myself... my name is Joey, and I am a stay-at-home mom. In my everyday life, I often hear phrases from my well-meaning career driven girlfriends such as, "well you have the time" or "must be nice to get the chance" or my favorite "I wish i had the time to like you." Time like me???? I silently laugh inside at the notion I have time.
The reality is, we all have the same 24 hours in a day. So when I hear it must be nice to be able to workout at home and go to the gym in the evening with my friends, what I really want to say is how early 5:00 a.m. is and how that's the only reason I get my home workout in weekly or even have enough time to take a shower once a day. Or how a nap must be nice, but what they don't see is the bedtime of 1:00 a.m. after I get the kids to bed and the house cleaned up and Coles dinner packed away for his next shift. I have nothing but love for my extremely outgoing career-driven friends but sometimes I think they underestimate the workload that a stay-at-home mom, or work-from-home mom does. It's all day, every day, 24 hours, 7 days a week. It's never ending phone calls from the schools, it's appointments, it's errand running, it's non-stop cleaning, it's stressful. All of which I know most working moms also have to deal with, yet for us moms who stay at home, because the guys in our lives are the primary breadwinners, we seem to think we have to do all of this on our own and have it done, clean, and perfect ( or at least that's how I feel) before anyone walks in or out of the door. Add to that the pressure to have some semblance of a paycheck by doing daycare, or cleaning other people's houses, or direct marketing, or selling our left kidney on the black market to anyone who wants a slightly damaged and stressed organ all so we can feel like we are contributing and so our friends who work out of the home don't look at us like we are lazy, uneducated, and do nothing.
For my working moms, or those back in school... I am sorry from those of us who stay at home and flip this whole thing around on you. "Must be nice to go to lunch with people" or "must be nice to have a paycheck to go buy what you want" or the worst "must be nice to not have to deal with the kids when they are being brats" -- yes I said brats, we all will live. I feel like you ladies are probably sick of hearing how someone doesn't understand how you could let someone else raise your children. News flash. Working moms, and moms furthering their education, still raise their children.
And last but not least for my single moms...
You are amazing and you are doing double duty most of the time. If stay at home mom, work from home mom, or a career mom gives you hell, send them my way because I have been there. I salute you.