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7 Steps to Success

Here, you will find seven steps to help you extend the flow and ease, and succeed in anything you do from dating, to changing your career, to saving for a new home.
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Sillhouettes of a champions on the high mountain. Sport and active life
Sillhouettes of a champions on the high mountain. Sport and active life

You find yourself at a place where life is flowing with ease. You are ready to extend the flow and ease into a new phase of your life and are wondering how to do so successfully. Here, you will find seven steps to help you extend the flow and ease, and succeed in anything you do from dating, to changing your career, to saving for a new home.

Step 1: Set Your Goal
Start by setting your goal. Once set, shift your focus to what you would like the outcome to be -- the intention. Be as clear as you can possibly be. For example, if your goal is to be in a romantic relationship, and you acknowledge the reason why is because you want to have someone by your side to share and experience life with, then focus on having a partner who supports you and whom you can have fun with as you experience life together vs. finding "the one." It creates a clear intention and focuses the energy while releasing the pressure at the same time.

Step 2: Commit
See your goal as a journey that has your intention waiting for you at the end of it. Take full responsibility of your journey by committing to seeing it through, especially in moments of insecurity and uncertainty, and commit to doing so for you. When fear arises or any form of defeat, stay committed and remind yourself that it is not the end of the road, only a hurdle, as you persevere, and when a jolt of reassurance is needed focus on the positive and practice gratitude.

Step 3: Make Adjustments
Make adjustments along the way wherever needed, so your choices and decisions match what you intended to accomplish and to create room for the new. If you intended to save money for a down payment, adjust your spending or increase the money coming in. Make internal adjustments however needed as well. Maybe you need to adopt a more positive way of thinking to help you stay committed as you go through your journey.

Step 4: Be Consistent
Be consistent with your goal and follow through. If your goal was to start your own business and one week you are fully in it -- staying committed, making adjustments, focusing, etc., and the next, you are looking for a job, sending resumes, scheduling an interview, your inconsistency will block your progress and can lead to frustration or result in you giving up. Consciously choose to stay consistent to help things flow with ease and to help you stay focused.

Step 5: Expect to Succeed
Expect to succeed and have faith that it will happen. Visualize yourself being successful -- see yourself walking through life with your partner and feel yourself supported and satisfied. If needed, use the success already in place to help you stay motivated or to help you believe in yourself and your ability to reach your goal. Be sure to also celebrate the small things, stops and accomplishments along the way to receive small forms of success.

Step 6: Take Pride
Take pride in who you are and in what you do. Be the best version of yourself as you go through your journey, and lead with it by expecting to get the best in return. Align yourself with your values, integrity and beliefs and align them with you, so that there are no double standards in your way of living, creating a flow in what you put out and what you take in -- bringing balance to you and your journey.

Step 7: Have Enough
Have enough. Remember, you are on a journey, and yes, there is a goal that will be reached and an intention accomplished, but give yourself credit along the way. Be grateful for going on a date, or your first contribution to your down payment, or for making a business plan, and appreciate yourself for it. The more you appreciate, the more grateful you will be and the more you will be able to enjoy the present moment and feel as if you have enough and you are doing enough.