Do you ever feel like you sometimes get drunk on the drama of a hurt? It initially provides a good buzz but after too many, you suddenly don't feel so good. That's what happened to me last month. I did a bit of traveling to see family and friends, managed through two severe colds and worked relentlessly on a new free product I am going to offer this year. All of that left me exhausted. When I get exhausted, my resilience muscle starts to weaken, and I can easily slip into negative thinking, which is exactly what happened.
A decision that someone made hurt me deeply. I spent a small amount of time in a pity party of my own making. I was exhausted, and I didn't have the energy to do anything about it, so I just let it wash over me for a time. I knew the pity party was not a good place for me to stay; it didn't make me feel good or serve me in any positive way. I had to make a decision to change my thinking, to change the way I was reacting because I was only feeding bad thoughts with more evil thoughts. As I sat there stewing on this, I remembered this parable entitled "The Wolf You Feed."
An old Cherokee brave told his grandson, "My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all.
One is evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, and ego. (Fear based)
The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy and truth." (Love based)
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather:
"Which wolf will win?"
The old Cherokee simply replied,
"The one that you feed."
What wolf was I feeding? I had to feed the wolf that I wanted to be in charge. If I continued to focus on the hurt and self-pity, I would be feeding the evil wolf. If I focused more on empathy, then I would live in the world of the higher self or the good wolf. My perception would be my reality.
I choose to see the situation as one in which wasn't meant to hurt me, even though it did. So essentially I refocused my reaction and acknowledged the pain and then let it go. It didn't serve me, and I didn't need the drama.
There are times in life when you just have to take charge of the struggle and decide which wolf you are feeding. If you feed the evil wolf, you feed fear, and you help it to grow and strengthen. Choose to feed the soul.
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