“How did you have your children?” is a pretty awkward question for any parent to answer, though it’s a question most often directed to gay parents, along with many other invasive ones.
Brandy Black, editor-in-chief of The Next Family, and her wife Susan Howard have been on the receiving end of many awkward and uncomfortable questions or statements related to their family. The two moms decided to gather these questions and odd statements together and try them out on a heterosexual couple, just to prove how weird and inappropriate these questions are.
Their recent YouTube video features Black and Howard interviewing a straight couple, Michelle and Johnathan, and the two moms don’t hold back. Following their first question, “How did you guys have your kids?” there’s a bit of a pause from Michelle and Johnathan and then uncomfortable laughter.
“How did we make them?” Michelle asks and then her husband, “Delivering the kids or actually making the kids?”
It’s clear that the straight parents aren’t quite sure what to make of the question or the others that follow, some of which include included, “When did you realize that you were straight?” and “Which one of you is the man—the dominant in the relationship?” and “Are your two daughters actually related?”
It makes for a funny but awkward conversation and it’s clear that Michelle and Johnathan have never been on the receiving end of these common questions that many gay parents are bombarded with by strangers in random places like the elevator, the park, and sometimes in front of their children.
Finally, Johnathan says what every parent who would be asked these questions would say, “It’s super awkward!”
Followed by Michelle saying, “I feel like you guys probably get this all the freaking time.”
And Susan and Brandy do get these questions all the time, and so do many other gay parents!
Though gay parents might not be the norm for the larger part of society, this video shows just how weird and invasive many of these seemingly innocent questions can be.
Watch the video below to see these straight parents squirm under these awkward questions that gay parents get asked.
Alex Temblador is from Texas and is a staff writer for The Next Family.
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