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Straight Women Get Candid About Having Lesbian Fantasies

“If we didn’t have all of this external bulls**t... [people] wouldn't be afraid to explore."
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HuffPost Queer Voices Editor

The latest video from popular YouTube vlogger Arielle Scarcella brings together a group of straight women to discuss their relationship with lesbian fantasy and the spectrum of human sexuality.

The video builds on a previous project from Scarcella where the YouTuber made the same group of women watch and explain why they enjoy watching lesbian porn. In this video, the featured women continue to engage in dialogue about the fluid nature of human sexuality and why they think so many straight women have lesbian fantasies. 

The video also discusses expectations of masculinity among men when it comes to sexual desire.

“Are straight women still straight if they have lesbian fantasies?” Scarcella asked in a statement to The Huffington Post. “Well, lesbians tend to watch guy on guy porn, does that make us gay men? I think sexuality / being turned on, has something to do with sexual orientation, but not everything.”

One video participant echoed Scarcella’s thoughts.

“It’s the same way that women get brainwashed about bodies,” she says. “If we didn’t have all of this external bullshit making us think that we have to be a certain way... [people] would not be afraid to explore things like that.”

Check it out above and head here to see more from Scarcella.

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Before You Go

6 Things You Always Wanted To Know About Lesbian Sex But Were Afraid To Ask
Question: What exactly do you two do?(01 of06)
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Answer: The ways we have sex are as varied as straight couples. I'd argue that the sex we have is actually better, because there's not the looming issue of a hard-on and how the hard-on will be serviced. Women are also capable of multiple orgasms, so there is little to no recovery time. We have oral sex, anal sex, penetrative sex and everything in between. (credit:Lorand Gelner via Getty Images)
Question: Is one of you "the man"?(02 of06)
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Answer: This question is always hilarious to me, because it shows how deeply ingrained strict gender roles are. Sometimes there are more masculine women or queer folks who like to be in control, but not always. It all comes down to personal preference, honestly. And not just that one of us is always "a top" and the other "a bottom"... we often switch roles, sometimes during the middle of the same sex session. (credit:Shutterstock)
Question: Is it easier since you're both women and know instinctively what the other likes?(03 of06)
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Answer: God, I wish. No, no and no. Just like hetero people, it takes us gay ladies a while to figure out what we like. I had absolutely no idea what the hell I was doing for a good year or so after I started sleeping with women. It wasn't until I met my first girlfriend that I really started to understand how profoundly mind-blowing sex with a woman can be. (credit:shutterstock)
Question: If you like women, why would you have sex with a girl who looks like a boy? Why not just date a man?(04 of06)
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Answer: Because men are men. As a lesbian, I'm attracted to the parts and mind of a woman. Men don't have boobs (well, they do, but they are not developed). I have a very hard time connecting on an emotional level with men. I can have friends that are dudes, but falling in love was tough, because I just don't relate to men in the same way. We don't "click." Also, even with more masculine looking men or queer folks, there is still a feeling of difference from the norm, and that feels right for many of us. (credit:Louis Debenham via Getty Images)
Question: If I want to kiss a girl, does that make me a lesbian?(05 of06)
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Answer: Not necessarily. Our culture places way too much importance on labels. Maybe you are gay, maybe you aren't. I hope we get to the point in history where it no longer matters. Something like 80% of straight women have lesbian fantasies, so you're in good company. (credit:Getty)
Question: Are you hitting on me?(06 of06)
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Answer: Maybe. Are you hot? If so, then I probably am.


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