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#TalktoMe -- Children Should Be Seen and Not Heard?

I never heard the words, "Talk to me", and I never said them to my elders. It was patriarchy all the way, with the word of Dad final, and opinions never welcome.
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In the olden times, children were to be seen and not heard. I lived in those olden times.

I never heard the words, "Talk to me", and I never said them to my elders. It was patriarchy all the way, with the word of Dad final, and opinions never welcome.

Today an 8-year-old has the freedom and encouragement to ask questions, and questions are asked of him and her. This is wonderful. What questions would I have asked my parents as an 8-year-old?

I would probably want to know what they were like as children. I would ask them what they thought they would be when they grew up when they were children, and if that ever happened. I would want to know if they were happy with the way their lives turned out.

My Mom gave birth to 11 children and my Dad was the son of a wealthy doctor who chose a life of religion and having many children after leaving the US Navy. I am full of questions and I'm sure they are full of answers.

There was no #talktome back then, and I am full of gratitude that I can give my own 8 year old the gift of asking me questions.

Children should be seen AND heard.