The 4 Ways to Connect With the Men You Want to Date


If your objective is to have a romantic long-term relationship with a man, you'll need to know exactly how to connect with him on 3 levels so it has the potential to go somewhere.

When you understand the precise connections between the heart, mind and body and how they work together, you'll be able to determine what type of relationship you want with the different men you meet.

And once in a relationship, this information will help you figure out whether or not the relationship has the potential to go somewhere.

Your 4 Unique Connections To Men

Your Heart And Mind

If you and a man connect through each other's heart and mind, you've probably found a man you absolutely love and adore. The two of you can talk for hours but when it comes to sexual chemistry, the spark is missing or flat.

This combination creates a lasting friendship with a great man long after the date has ended. He's perfect for taking to a wedding or an event that you don't want to attend on your own. Or he's the one you take to the latest movie you want to see. Either way, it's nice to be around male energy and this type of relationship is usually laid back and easy.

Your Mind And Body

The mixture of your mind plus a physical connection with a man creates a "friends with benefits" partner. This combination suits you on the days you want fantastic mental and physical stimulation. There is no heart involved here.

In fact, after having mind-blowing sex, the two of you could easily get out of bed and go back to doing your own thing with no after sex glow and cuddling. Your intellectual thoughts and bodies stimulate each other but love doesn't exist between the two of you.

This relationship is fun but often, it's the woman who gets hurt in this type of connection.

Your Heart And Body

Have you ever met a man where your heart opens, the sparks fly and you find yourself almost instantaneously in love?

It feels like all you want to do is spend the day in bed, feeling the love that abundantly spills between the two of you. This is chemistry, an Oxytocin high and it's a connection you'll have with a man through your heart and your body.

It's powerful. It's strong and it rarely gets you anywhere because there is no friendship beneath it. You don't have a mind connection so when the intensity of sex fades... so does the relationship.

I had this type of connection with my second husband. We had tremendous chemistry and we quickly fell so crazy in love that we were engaged within 3 months. It was a whirlwind relationship that ended almost 2 years to the day we married. I could have saved myself a lot of heartache if I'd had this knowledge back then.

If you find yourself intensely attracted to a man this way, RUN before you get too connected. There is such a thing as too much chemistry.

Your Heart, Mind And Body

This combination of the heart, mind and body has the potential for taking a relationship all the way. It doesn't mean it will always work out, but it is a signal to move ahead if this is what you want.

These four combinations will also give you the key to figuring out why your relationships didn't work in the past. When you look back at the different loves in your life, can you now understand what went wrong and which of the three connections -- heart, mind or body -- might have been missing that kept the relationship from working the way you wanted it to?

In your present and future relationships, can you see how understanding these combinations can help you quickly assess your relationship potential with any man you date? You'll be able to figure out exactly how a man will fit in your life just by using this invaluable key.

I'd love to know what you think in the comments.

Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50s dating. She's the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit