The Art Of Getting Exactly What You Want

The Art Of Getting Exactly What You Want

How do we get what we want in work and in life? That question drives many of our habits and behaviors, and has made self-help -- with countless books, workshops, seminars and retreats promising the elusive answer to that very question -- a billion-dollar industry. It's made titles like Goals! How To Get Everything You Want -- Faster Than You Ever Thought Possible, See You At The Top, and How To Win Friends & Influence People best-sellers.

A thousand different pieces of advice promise the path to getting what you want, most of which involve overcoming your fear and persevering through setbacks. And in addition to external resistance, we tend to set up a lot of obstacles for ourselves -- imagining what could go wrong or inventing reasons we're incapable of accomplishing a particular goal -- sometimes forgetting that the path to success may be simpler, or less linear, than we realize.

Many successful people in a range of professions advanced their careers and found fulfillment in creative, unorthodox ways. They knew they had what it took, and didn't give naysayers (including the ones inside their own head) the opportunity to tell them otherwise.

Here are five inspiring success stories from people who made their own luck.

David Brooks

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New York Times columnist David Brooks got an unlikely start to his career as a writer, author and political commentator. He began writing a humor column for the school paper in his junior year at the University of Chicago. During his senior year, when he learned that author William F. Buckley was visiting the campus, Brooks sent the author a parody of his memoir, Overdrive, New York magazine reports. Brooks added a note that read: “Some would say I’m envious of Mr. Buckley. But if truth be known, I just want a job and have a peculiar way of asking. So how about it, Billy? Can you spare a dime?”

Buckley announced during his lecture in Chicago the next week, "David Brooks, if you’re in the audience, I’d like to give you a job." Unfortunately, Brooks wasn't there -- he had been selected to participate in a debate tournament in California that day -- but he quickly launched a successful career in journalism after college nonetheless.

Sally Field

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Sally Field may be an Oscar-winning actress, but she still had to fight to land a role she knew was meant for her, playing Mary Todd Lincoln, Abraham Lincoln's wife, in the 2012 film, "Lincoln." The actress fought hard to convince director Steven Spielberg (who originally said he knew she was "not right") and leading man Daniel Day-Lewis that she was the one for the part. Following an initial screen test -- after which Spielberg refused her for the role -- Field convinced Day-Lewis to fly to Los Angeles from Ireland for the day to improv with her in full costume for Spielberg. She nailed it -- and the rest is history.

"To actually become Mary, I had to demand that they didn't walk away," Field told Good Morning America.

Anderson Cooper

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Anderson Cooper began his media career as a fact-checker for Channel One, which produces news shows to be broadcast in schools. But the ambitious Cooper -- who had just received his degree in political science from Yale -- got bored with the position pretty quickly. Rather than resigning himself to the daily grind, Cooper took his video camera to Southeast Asia, where he filmed scenes of strife in Myanmar and then parts of Africa. The stunt quickly earned him the position of chief international correspondent for Channel One, and ultimately caught the attention of ABC News, where he landed his first job as an anchor.

Michael Lewis

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Best-selling author and business journalist Michael Lewis has made a career out of uncovering the dark secrets of Wall Street. But he wasn't always getting bylines on cover stories for Vanity Fair and The New York Times -- Lewis was still in the London banking world when he started writing articles satirizing it. His first piece for The New Republic ("It was basically just making fun of British bankers," Lewis said) was a PR nightmare for his firm Salomon Brothers. But it didn't stop him: Lewis continued writing articles using his mother's name, Diana Bleeker, as a pseudonym. Soon enough, "Diana Bleeker" got a contract with Business Magazine -- meaning Lewis could leave his job to pursue his passion.

"It became clear I could make a living -- if not as fancy a living -- as a writer," Lewis told Publishers Weekly, "and so I quit."

Amy Tan


Before Amy Tan was a bestselling author, she ran a technical-writing business with a partner, focusing largely on account management. Feeling stifled and unfulfilled in her position, Tan shared with her partner that she wanted to do more writing, Reader's Digest reported. But he told her to keep doing what she was "most good at" -- chasing down contractors and collecting bills, her least favorite part of the job -- and that writing was her weakest skill. She fought back repeatedly, and when her partner refused to acknowledge her skill, Tan ultimately quit. She took on a heavy load of freelance assignments, and went on to write a handful of best-selling novels.

Debbie Wasserman Schultz

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As a recent college graduate, aspiring politician Debbie Wasserman Schultz helped Florida congressman Peter Deutsch successfully run for the U.S. House of Representatives -- and then got his blessing to go after his seat in the Florida House of Representatives. Wasserman Schultz went from neighborhood to neighborhood, personally knocking on the doors of more than 25,000 people in her home state of Florida to win the seat. She became the youngest female legislator in the state's history at just 26 years old, Business Insider reports.

Chris Putnam


Facebook founder and CEO Mark Zuckerberg lives by the maxim "Fortune favors the bold" -- and perhaps none of his employees at Facebook personify that idea more than Chris Putnam. In 2005, the young tech whiz hacked the site and wrote a computer virus to make user profiles look like MySpace pages. The hack lasted less than a day, but it caught the attention of COO Dustin Moskovitz, with whom Putnam developed a relationship via Facebook message and AIM. Soon afterwards, Putnam received an offer from Facebook, dropped out of college in Georgia, and moved to Silicon Valley to join the team.

With Facebook's founding ethos of risk-taking, it's not surprising that the company decided to hire Putnam. As Zuckerberg once said, "The biggest risk is not taking any risk. In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks."

This story appears in Issue 72 of our weekly iPad magazine, Huffington, available Friday, Oct. 25 in the iTunes App store.

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