Bridey, today's post is like hitting the jackpot of wedding planning. SERIOUSLY. If you are recently engaged or are in the midst of planning your wedding, stop what you're doing, and focus because you are about to be educated by the BEST in the wedding biz! I asked some of my absolute FAVORITE vendors in the Boston area to share the best piece of advice about planning a wedding, and these peeps? Well, they completely spilled the beans. I mean... There is so much wedding planning goodness in this post, that I could fucking chew it!!!
I rarely say cheesy shit like this, but this is a must read!! So, are you ready to learn? Ready to say, "Thank you, Bitchless Bride!!" Good! You're welcome!
When you are newly engaged, you tend to become inundated with information overload and it can be daunting to say the least. My advice to newly-engaged couples is to forgo the route of hiring all of your vendors until you've secured the right, professional, experienced wedding planner. Some couples feel it's best to hire a "day of" coordinator and do the rest themselves, only to learn how much money could have been easily saved by avoiding costly mistakes and uneducated decisions along the way. The right planner should be your guide, your educator, your confidant, your representative along the way and you need to put your trust into this person as they do this every day and truly look out for your best interests from the start.
Paula Marrero ~ Marrero Events
Don't panic, it's all overwhelming at first but it's important to book the top 3 first-top priorities (if you're not working with a planner) are to find your venue, photographer and band--then breathe! I also advise brides to wait to design the space until about 6 months before the wedding... You'll be able to have a couple months thinking about ideas, pinning on Pinterest , etc... I find that so many of my clients go in with one idea and once they've relaxed and see what is out there or trending in their wedding year they change their idea of what their wedding looks like--so ultimately they get what they want instead of what they thought they wanted--big difference!
Amy Kimball ~ Amy Kimball Events
Invitations are the introduction of your wedding to your friends and family; they set the tone for the event. You can't just get a quote as there are a lot of factors to consider such as quantity, quality, type of inserts, type of print, etc. There is a lot more involved then most people realize. So, plan accordingly.
Mara Weiner ~ Allure Invitations
Be your own "bride" ...don't worry about what family, in-laws, friends & co-workers want for YOUR WEDDING. Follow what YOU have wanted & dreamed about.
Paula Kirrane ~ Icing on the Cake
Once your venue is booked, the next step is to lock in your entertainment. In order to get the best DJ or band out there, you have to book well in advance. Remember, first and foremost? Your guests are going to remember if they had a good time. That's why good entertainment is vital.
Always ask your entertainment vendor about their other recommended services. This is how you get the best deals without making a laundry list of phone calls. They may already have what you need and could save you time and money without sacrificing quality.
Mike Amado ~ Entertainment Specialists
Lately couples are asking me if they should do the "first look". My answer is always YES! The first reveal is always so sweet. The moment is far more emotion and allows for a more intimate/private moment with just the couple.
Some brides envision this grand moment when they are walking down the aisle, and the groom is sobbing... However, in reality, in a traditional formal setting with 200 people looking at you... The groom often looks like a deer in head lights. Not at all the magical moment you think it will be! So yes, do a first look!
Lauren Killian ~ Person + Killian Photography
Don't do a winter e-session! People look freezing, and are super uncomfortable. Nothing like having dirty snow and branches coming out of everyone's heads! Wait until the spring when the temperatures are higher, and the trees start to bloom. I highly suggest April-November.
~ Anonymous Photographer
1. Make sure that your photographer and videographer work well as a team. Even better, choose a team where your photographer and videographer have worked together and enjoy the experience.
2. Ask your prospective wedding film maker how they operate during the wedding day. Will they have lights on their cameras? Will they be on the dance floor circling the couple during the first dance? Will they stand behind the officiant during the ceremony - Or will they stake out spots based on experience and fade into the decor?
3. Ask your toasters to limit toasts to under 5 minutes. 3 is even better. There's not much they can say (that won't be dumb or embarrassing) after a couple of minutes.
4. Invite your guests to leave their phones and cameras in their pockets or purses. You're paying for pros to document your wedding - don't let the amateurs get in the way!
5. When considering wedding cinematography, check out the sound as well as the images of potential pros. Capturing pristine sound of your grandfather's blessing and knowing how to integrate it with music and image, is a complex art form. Don't settle for pretty pictures if you already have a photographer you love. When it comes to film making, sound is 60% or more.
6. If you desperately want a top notch film maker to capture your wedding, and have a limited budget, consider one of the following:
a. Grab pics from the HD / 24 Frames per second of the video capture and forego the photographer.
b. Hire the film maker you want and see if you can work out a payment plan that works for you.
c. Opt for the best film maker you can afford, ask them to produce a short highlights now, and wait until you've financially recovered to have them edit the feature film.
Naomi Raiselle ~ Generations Cinemastories
The Best way to trim your budget is to trim you guest list (it literally makes every line item more affordable - period, the end)! (AMEN!!!!!!)
If you "absolutely love and have to have peonies" - know that you absolutely MUST select a wedding date in May or early-June!
Bring as few people to each and every appointment that you book ... the less opinions, the less stressed out you will be!
~ Anonymous Florist
And there you have it... You're welcome, bridey!!! Now, all you have to do is listen to the professionals trying to help you.