Sex After 50 Means Facing This Big Challenge In Today's Dating Scene

Joe: Perhaps surprisingly, sex was a less complicated issue in my 20s. One might think that as we get older the sexual stuff would get less problematic, but I have found the opposite. The actual "sex" is just as good as ever (if it isn't, you're doing something wrong) but the "dance" people do around the sexual issue is weighted down by bad relationships of the past, worries about how we will be perceived, fear of "wasting time" as the sands run through our hourglasses and such. The dating scene, because of the Internet, has gotten much better. It is possible to meet many people you would never have been able to otherwise, and contrary to what some people wrongly believe, there is much more, not less, information available now about your dating partners. Worries about Internet dating are overblown.

Joe: I think working -- and that word may offend some people -- to make relationships succeed is more difficult as we get older. The urge to cut and run -- especially because it's so easy now to meet people -- sometimes outweighs the desire to work on relationships that may have some problems, as all relationships do.

Joe: That it gets more difficult to find "the right one" as you get older. It's always hard to find the right one, as evidenced by the dozens of dating sites and tens of millions of people on them. Yes, we are usually more discerning about what we want after 50, but as long as we are open to possibilities and new people, we can find rewarding relationships.