The Heart Wants What the Heart Wants... or Does It?

The Heart Wants What the Heart Wants... or Does It?
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Let's get something straight, right now.

The heart does not want anything.

The heart does not have a brain nor does it have the ability to make complicated decisions about love. It pumps blood to your organs. That is pretty much it.

So, I tend to throw up a little in my mouth when someone quotes to me, "But the heart wants what the heart wants!"

This is such a pile of crap, seriously.

I find this usually happens when someone is justifying a partner's bad behavior that goes against all reason. We somehow feel a whole bunch better about the crappy behavior since "the heart wants what the heart wants."

I mean, it isn't our fault, right? The heart just wants it!

Semi-deep thoughts coming at you...

Sometimes in life, we are just attracted to certain types of people. We are drawn to them in ways we can't explain. I mean, it isn't our fault, right? (There is science, psychology and a whole bunch of other stuff all balled into one behind this. I am not going there right now.)

I also know that although we are drawn to them, we always have a choice to create a relationship with them.

We always get to choose if they are in our lives or what role they play. We are not victims in some crazy scheme, stuck in a bad dating cycle or relationships because that silly heart wants it!

So, from today on let's not be confused about this, shall we? Trying to blame something as amazing as love when it is really fear in disguise.

Stupid fear.

You are so much more than that. This crap is so beneath you, Sugarpants.

So, can everyone just do me (and yourselves) a huge favor?

Let's stop messin' around and really do this love thing.

Let's stop pretending that your fears are about love.

Creating drama that isn't there, relationships that don't exist and stories in your head about what you want the relationship to be, instead of what it really is.

Here is your challenge today: How about today we take a step back and look at what is not working in your life when it comes to love. Are you able to give and receive love openly (not just attraction)? Do you know and share with someone what you need to thrive in a relationship? Are you so passionate about your life every day that you just can't help but want to share it?

If not, what the heck are you doing?

We only get one life. This is it, people. Stop pretending what the heart wants, and get to know what you really need to be happy in a beautiful, healthy relationship.

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